Nchifukwa chiyani atsikana akale amalota? Timaphunzira!

Mudziko la maloto zinthu zimachitika kawirikawiri zomwe sizinali zoti zichitike kwenikweni. Zochitika izi zikuphatikizapo kulankhula ndi kuyankhula ndi anthu omwe adataya moyo wanu, makamaka abwenzi akale kapena abwenzi. Tiyeni tiyankhule za zomwe mtsikana wakale akulota. Izi ndi zoona kwa achinyamata omwe ali ndi bungwe lauzimu lachinsinsi, chifukwa kawirikawiri masomphenyawa atangoyamba kuchita ndiye kuyesa kukhazikitsa mgwirizano ndi chinthu chakale chousa moyo. Ndipo izi nthawi zambiri zimapangitsa kuti palibe chabwino.

Ngati akutsutsana, chinthu chokhacho chimene mtsikana wakale akulota ndikumangokumbukira. Kapena mwinamwake simungathe "kusiya" munthu uyu mmoyo wanu ndikumangokhalira kukambirana naye, kufufuza zochitika pa mfundo "zomwe anganene kwa ichi," ndi kuyerekezera nthawi zonse ndi chikondi choyambirira cha anzanu atsopano. Kaŵirikaŵiri sichikondwera nawo. Choncho, ngati msungwana wakale atalota kawirikawiri, iyi ndi nthawi yosinkhasinkha za moyo wake: mwinamwake, muyenera kuganiziranso momwe mumaganizira ndi mbiri yakale ndikusiya kulingalira chinthu chousa moyo. Zotsatira za psychology zili ndi dzina la "Gestalt losadziwika", ndipo imasiyidwa pa moyo wonse wa munthu.

Komabe, kuwonjezera pa kulingalira kwanzeru kwa maloto, nthawi zambiri mayankho olondola pa masomphenya omwe amaperekedwa amaperekedwa ndi mabuku a maloto. Chuma ichi cha nzeru zamtundu wina nthawi zina chimapereka zosiyana kwambiri ndi zochitika zofanana, koma nthawi zambiri amapereka malangizo osayenera momwe angachitire zimenezi kapena munthu ameneyo kapena zochitika usiku. Timaphunzira zomwe asungwana akale amalota pazinthu zodziwika zamabuku a maloto.

Pa nkhaniyi, pali mgwirizano wathunthu pakati pa psychology ndi zenizeni: maloto a abwenzi akale amasonyeza kusakhumba kwanu kuiwala za ubalewu. Koma pali zovuta zina mu masomphenya oterowo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati chikondi choyambirira chikulota ndi njonda yatsopano, izi zikutanthauza kuti bwenzi lanu labwino likubweretserani kutsogolo kwa kusankha komwe mungakulitsire chikondi chanu chamakono. Koma ngati malotowo ali ndi chidwi chochita zolakwitsa zakale ndi zosangalatsa komanso zokondweretsa, ndiye kuti mwatanthauzira kale maubwenzi anu akale ngati gawo la moyo.

Nchifukwa chiyani mtsikana wakale akulota za buku la loto la Freud? Ngati masomphenyawo akugonana naye kapena kupsompsona - zikutanthauza kuti mu moyo wake pali kusintha, ndipo chidziwitso chatsopano cha mkazi chidzakhala mnzanu watsopano. Kutanthauzira kwina kwa maloto oterowo: mu moyo wanu, mavuto angathe kuwuka, omwe mizu yawo imakhala munthawi yanu yakale.

Chifukwa chomwe atsikana akale ankalota buku la Atose lotolo - nthawi zonse limakumbutsa kanthu kalikonse kalelo. Zingakhale zosasangalatsa ngati munalumbirira kapena munangoyankhula ndi wakale, ndipo mwinamwake msonkhano wosayembekezereka ndi munthu wina wakale simunawone ngati mutasinthasintha. Kawirikawiri, chirichonse chimene anganene, maloto ngati amenewo amachenjezedwa kuti zakale zimakhudza tsogolo lanu, ndipo ngati zabwino kapena zoipa zimadalira inu, ndi pang'ono pa zomwe inu munalota.