Kudzidalira: Kodi kupewa Usawope ankakonda

Ine ndikufuna ndikuuzeni nkhani imodzi. Ndinalandira kalata.

R. analemba kuti: "Lero ndinali ndi tsiku. Choyamba. Iye ali wokongola kwambiri. Thupi yomangidwa bwino. Iye amagwira ntchito ngati wotetezera. Ine kwenikweni anaikonda.

Ndiyeno onse chalakwika. Ndinkaona chikoka cholimba. Pamene muyang'ana mu maso ake, ndiye ine kutaya ulusi kucheza mutu lake lili ku mapewa ake, mapewa pano, pakamwa wake unadzaza ndi malovu. Ndipo maso ake wang'ambidwa kuigwedeza. Thandizeni silingachite chirichonse. Mantha thupi lonse. Mantha chifukwa iye sakonda. Ine sindingakhoze ngakhale ndikuuzeni kumene anachokera. Ine ndinabwera zonse! Choyamba, mu mawonekedwe a zomverera, ndiyeno inasanduka nzeru, m'kulimbika! Monga ngati munthu anali ndi lalikulu kwambiri ndi wochenjera kwambiri zinandipangitsa kuzindikira, kuti Ine ndine woipa kuposa munthu ameneyu. Ndipo mnyamata akudziwa izo, nawonso. Ndipo chidziwitso cha izi, Ine ndine woipa kuposa iye abwere kwa ine, osati m'mau, koma chinachake. Koma ine bwino kumulola Iye. Ngakhale panalibe kukaikira. Ine ndinali "anauza" kuti Ine ndine Mulungu sangatikonde. Kodi Ndine sangafanane ndi iye. Iye ali bwino kuposa ine.

Ndipo Chofunika, ine sindingakhoze kuchita kanthu. Ngati anamupepetula. Inu mukudziwa, wamatsenga limati: "Inu ndinu chipika." Ndipo inu nditagona mipando iwiri, wina kumbuyo kwa mutu wake, zidendene - pa ena. Inu - chipika weniweni! Osati zosangalatsa, koma kwenikweni! Ndipo panali kanthu inu simungakhoze. Pamaso pa wamatsenga razgipnotiziruet inu ...

Ambiri, ine analephera kuyankhulana ... Iye sanaitana, ndipo sitinapyole anakumana ...

Ndinafika kunyumba chipwirikiti ndi mtima. Anayamba kuganiza ... Ine ndine zawonjezeka! Konse! Ndine mnyamata (Ine ndine 25) ndi wokongola. Wamtali ndi ang'ono. Ndi chitsitsi wa tsitsi lofiira lopotana. Diploma ya Moscow Pedagogical Institute. Dance thanthwe 'n' mayina. Ine pampando twayini mtanda! palibe izo sakubwerera kwa atsikana wanga ... Ine ndine moipirapo !!!! Amene ine tiwonana pamene ndinati Choipitsitsa? Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani Ndikuvomereza kuti izi?

Cinderella adakumbukira. Pamene anafika pa mpira kunyumba ya mfumu, ndi kuvina ndi Prince, iye analibe mantha kapena manyazi. Panali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati iye ndi mkulu mu maphunziro, udindo. Komabe, iye nayenso ananama kwa Prince, dongosolo si kuti alola zimene kwenikweni. Koma kuno si tiwonana alephera, koma ndithu mwake ... "

Pankhaniyi ndi chiyani? About kudzidalira.

Kapangidwe ka ambiri kudziletsa zovuta ndi osakaniza magawo ambiri ndipo limaphatikizaponso lamulo kudzidalira. Mkulu kudzidalira - ndi kuzindikira ndi wosafunika ndi kufunika. Ndi - yamtunduwu yekha, azidzidalira ndi ufulu.

Ngati pamwamba, kulemekeza kwa kudziona mu nthawi amabwerera iye sanasoŵerepotu. Self, mu maganizo ake, palibe phindu inali kuperekedwa choncho saona. Iye anali wotsimikiza ndekha, wodalira pa maganizo a mnyamatayo. lingaliro lakuti iye sanagwirizane nazo, anamutenga ndi kupita naye kwa mtima. Kudzidalira ochepa kwambiri.

Komabe, pamene Robert kunyumba, kudzidalira anayamba kuculuka. Izi zingakhale bwanji?

mfundo ndi yakuti kudzidalira si nthawi zonse. Kapangidwe ka ambiri kudziletsa kumatanthauza utsogoleri wolowezana wa mseri kudziletsa kuwunika.

Tony ndi maphunziro awiri mlingo. mzere umodzi imakhala ndi kuchuluka kwa konkire-situational Tony, ndi mlingo wachiwiri aumbike ngati khola, zowombetsa mkota, padziko lonse Tony. Pamene msonkhano zinachitika, konkire situational kudzidalira wakhala kwambiri saganizira. Anabwerera kwawo, mlingo wa kudzidalira chawonjezeka. Izi ndi nkhani yake.

Chifukwa pamene chibwenzi, kudzidalira anapita mofulumira. Ambiri mwina, chifukwa mnyamatayo ena magawo anamukumbutsa ali mwana, munthu kwambiri kwa iye. (Zimenezi zikusonyezedwa ndi kumva mthupi tafotokozazi). Mantha samazikonda izo, mwa kulankhula kwina, ndi mantha a akukanidwa. Usaope kutenga chikondi. Ichi chimabwera kuchokera pa ubwana wanga. Pamene makolo akwaniritse malonjezo awo mwana kunyalanyaza pempho lake, musataye iye amakonda, etc., nkhawa mwana, amaona anakana mosadziteteza, amaona kuti si chikondi. Mwana akukula, amakhala wamkulu, ndi mantha akukanidwa ndi sanalandire chikondi zotsalira ...

Anabwerera kwawo, fano la munthu kwambiri pamaso pake anali atapita, kotero iye akhoza kubwerera ku "pano" ndi kusinkhasinkha zimene zinachitika. Lake kudzidalira chawonjezeka.

Kodi kukhalabe kudzidalira pa mlingo woyenera?

1. Onani mtengo wawo ndi kufunika. Mwachitsanzo, lembani makhalidwe awo ali bwino anapanga, R., anabwerera kwawo.
2. Kuvomereza yekha kuti amafunika chisamaliro chidwi ndi chikondi.
3. Kumbukirani zochitika kuyambira ali mwana, ndipo izi zinachititsa kuti mantha amenewo. Ambiri mwina, makolo anali ndi mavuto ena omwe, kuphimba ndi kuchotsedwa mu mphindi mwanayo kwa iwo. Ndiyeno makolo anga anaiwala kubwerera pempho zosakwanira ananyalanyaza zofuna ndi ankayembekezera sizinachitike. Kapena mwina kukambirana ndi mwanayo, ine ndikupepesa, ine konse zokwanira. Psychology sanali kuphunzira! Ndipo iwo anali aang'ono kwambiri. Adakonda momwe iwo angathere.

Ine ndikufuna kukhala pa mfundo yakuti luso limene tingaphunzire kuchokera ku msonkhano uwu mtsikana wapatali kwambiri. Dziko otchuka yamaganizo Viktor Frankl chimakamba za makhalidwe situational ndi wosatha. Situational - izi ndi makhalidwe kubwera nawo zinthu zenizeni, ndipo nthawi zonse wapadera. Zikuchitika nthawi imodzi yokha mu moyo wake. Ndipo amaona kuti situational munthu akhoza kupeza nthawi 1 yekha mu moyo. Ngati iye anataya, kuusunga muyaya. More si ankaimba kumbuyo.

Mwachitsanzo, mtsikana anali ndi zolinga madzulo: kutikita, chimene iye chovuta sabata zapitazo. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi! Mnyamata wina wa ku anayambitsa gulu lake akukuitanani kudzacheza. Apa ndi phindu situational. Chinachitika! Ngati mtsikana kulepheletsa ulendo kuti masseur ndi kuvomereza kuitana kwa msonkhano, izo zikutanthauza kuti iye anatenga mwayi pa zimenezi, amene adzakhala kufunika kwake situational. Ndipo ngati iye alibe yokakamiza, phindu atayika. Muyaya. Zimenezi mu moyo wake sadzamva!

Ndi chifukwa chake mu moyo wanga womwe ndi kugwiritsa mbali zonse adzabweretsa wapadera ndi zapadera phindu.