Matchmaking: miyambo yosiyanasiya-

Mu moyo wa munthu pena kuti ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa iye. Mmodzi wa iwo anakwatira. Kufunika kwa chochitika zikungosonyezeratu kuti iye ayamba kukonza kale tsiku chosaiwalika. Pa kale kuli mwambo wa ukwati mu Russia panali miyambo yambiri kugwirizana ndi gulu tsogolo la ukwati.

Pankhani imeneyi ayenera anatsindika miyambo monga matchmaking, miyambo imene chinayambira ano. mfundo ndi yakuti pamaso tsoka la akazi tsogolo zambiri zimadalira si mmene mnzathuyo, koma anasankha makolo a mkwati ndi mkwatibwi, kugwirizana pakati pawo. Chibwenzi mwambo chinathandiza ichi. Ambiri, anatumikira ntchito zingapo zofunika. Mothandizidwa ndi achibale a mtsikanayo ali analidziwitsa ya cholinga cha mkazi angathe kumsemba. Komanso, makolo angathe mkwatibwi anayenera kapena kuvomereza kapena kukana kwa matchmakers. Komanso, miyambo ya matchmaking mwachidwi, kulengeza poyera mabanja awiri n'cholinga adzakwatirane mosakanizikana pakati pawo.

zokometsera zinachitikadi zambiri motere. Kuika matchmaking, miyambo mankhwala mnyamata woyamba kuuza makolo awo ofuna akwatire mtsikana wasangalala. Popanda kufuna chilolezo awo, sakanatha kukwatira. Ndiye mkwati anali kutumiza kwa nyumba ya dona matchmakers chake, chimene chiri ndi achibale wamwamuna wa mkwati, ndi nthawi anakwatirana kale. Childs, udindo umenewu nyimbo ndi bambo, mayi kapena godfather ndi amalume kapena mchimwene. Komabe, nthawi zina pamene matchmaking anafuna, miyambo analola amai, mwachitsanzo, godmother kapena azakhali. Pomaliza, mu Russia zikuchita thandizo kwa matchmaker akatswiri kapena matchmakers, waluso mu nyengo ya ukwati ndi kujambula ulemerero wa ogula m'njira iliyonse. Nthawi zina mphamvu ya makolo a mkwati anafika kuti anasankha mwana wake m'tsogolo mkwati, si chidwi maganizo ake. I tikaonetsetsa ofuna anali bwino ndi chuma chawo cha akazi a m'banja.

Kamodzi kusankha kwapangidwa, ndi matchmakers amavala ndi pa akavalo bwino anatumizidwa mwachindunji suti yokha. Customs za ulendo uwu ndi okhwima ndithu. Choncho, njira kunyumba kwa Mkwatibwi anali kukhala pa yozungulira a. Komanso, mu matchmakers njira, ngati n'kotheka, sayenera kusiya kulikonse ndi kulankhula ndi aliyense. Pa nthawi yomweyo, malinga ndi zimene ambiri amakhulupirira, nthawi yabwino mwambo matchmaking zikadzatha likamalowa. Pankhaniyi, zikuoneka kuti wina jinx chochitika anachepetsedwa yochepa.

Kulowa m'nyumba makolo a mkwatibwi, bwenzi ayenera kukhala pampando ndi mosamalitsa Otetezedwa malowa, omwe yomweyo anasonyeza makamu cholinga cha ulendo. Komabe, kusamuka yomweyo anatengedwera ku matchmaking kwambiri. Kuyamba kucheza pa nyengo, mbewu, etc., ndiye yekha ntchito akupangira anasankha zolinga alendo. Pankhaniyi, mkwatibwi angathe otchedwa ayi, mwachitsanzo, "pakati tachokera", "nkhuku", "chinthu" ndi mkwatibwi ankalemekeza "mlenje", "Tambala", "wamalonda". Pomaliza, makamu anasonyeza matchmakers kuyamikira ulemu mkulu ndipo anapereka kupita tebulo, yemwe kale imachitikira ndi nkhani mwachindunji za ukwati. mawu molimba pangano kapena kutsutsidwa ukwati za bambo a mtsikanayo. Kulibe - m'bale wake kapena amayi. Kutsogolera zokambiranazo, azilamu pa dzanja limodzi, kuyesera kulingalira mkwati mu maonekedwe abwino, ndi pa zina - kuyesa kuphunzira zonse zotheka za mkwatibwi. Mtsikanayo mu njira ya zokambirana amenewa ankafunika nthawi kuonekera mu chipinda, kuthira zakumwa ndi mmkudzionetsera zovala zawo wokongola kwambiri ndi olemera. Izi zinapereka mpata wabwino tione matchmakers mkwatibwi kutsatira khalidwe lake.

Monga ulamuliro, ukwati woyamba sanali anavomera. Mutu wa banja adzachite chete kudikira, kodi izo sizikanakhala zambiri zaphindu kupereka kwa wina aliyense wa mkwati, komanso razuznavaya, nayenso ali kale kupezeka akunyoza. Izo zinachitika kuti matchmakers analidi pakhomo. Pankhaniyi alendo, akubwera chifukwa cha makamu wopanda chisomo n'kutseka chitseko kumbuyo kwanu. Zimenezi zinali zoti akazipereke pokana angamuponyere kuchokera nyumba yovuta ndi kuteteza mofulumira kukwatira mwana wamkazi wa anthu ouma khosi. Ngati, pambuyo makolo kuyambirira matchmaking mkwatibwi sanali otsutsana ndi ukwati, apongozi pa nthawi anadza kachiwiri. Panali kale kwambiri kucheza malonda makamaka ali otchedwa "mzere kulowa" ndi mtundu wa zinachitika la masiku mgwirizano wa ukwati. Iwo ikuti mfundo za ukwati m'tsogolo, kuchuluka ndalama, chiwerengero cha alendo, malowolo kwa Mkwatibwi , etc.

Pamene mbali zonse anavomera zonse anamwalira wopalidwa ubwenzi mpango, amene anali ngati mtundu wa chitsimikizo ubale tsogolo lawo. Swat anali ndiyotani atakulungidwa mu mkate mpango, zomwe anasonyeza lonse m'mudzimo chizindikiro cha zotsatira bwino. Pa nthawi yomweyo iye chibwenzi mwambo zinatha. Tsopano banja la akazi a m'tsogolo chitani magawo lotsatira kukonzekera ukwati.

Monga mukuonera, zida Mkwatibwi miyambo malamulo mwatsatanetsatane. miyambo onse obwera ndi izo, mu mosamalitsa anati kwa nthawi yaitali, makamaka mabanja osauka. Pa yemweyo mwayi strata miyambo Russian anthu kufa deta mofulumira, kusakanikilana ndi dongosolo yachilendo ya khalidwe.