N'chifukwa chiyani anthu safuna kusintha anthu amene amakonda?

Tinganene mosakayika kuti aliyense wa ife pa m'moyo ndaphunzira kuti ndi woukira boma. Poyamba, mungaganizile: "Ine sindili choncho" kapena "Ine sakadachita zimenezo!" Koma, kuwonjezera ukathyali thupi, pali maganizo kusakhulupirira. Pansi kuperekedwa apa ife ndikutanthauza ousapo bwenzi ya phapo, kuti palibe kutsogolera kukopana ndi zinsinsi zina.

Ndimalota kapena kanthu kwenikweni?

Mwina tsiku lina munawatenga nthawi kudziyalutsa naye ochitira masewera a. Inu munali chidwi wosangalatsa mbali ya mlendo, kapena mlendo, ndipo inu Motero kuonjezera awo kudzidalira. Anthu ena kumvetsetsa kuti pang'ono prank inu mosavuta kubisala, kupita kwambiri. Iwo mobisa kwa bwenzi aika zithunzi zawo moona pa Intaneti, kuti womdziwa ndipo mwina anzanu apamtima kumbali. Monga tikudziwa, mabwenzi zimamangidwa pa kukhulupirira, koma ambiri a ife kamodzi pa moyo wanga akulakalaka munthu wina. Ena mwa iwo kukhala moyo mu maloto, ndi ena kupita kanthu weniweni. Koma chifukwa tikuyembekezera inaphulika maganizo kumbali, kodi chilengedwe kwenikweni anatipanga abwenzi opanda ungwiro?

Kusankha mwa maganizo osiyanasiyana

Pali maganizo ambiri chifukwa chake anthu kusintha anzawo chikondi. Maziko a kafukufuku zonse za sayansi ndi imodzi yosavuta cholinga: kudziwa mmene anthu mitala kapena monogamous. Ndiye inu mukhoza kuziwerenga ena mfundo ndi muone amene ndi loona.

Nyama chiyambi wathu limatiuza za monogamy?

Man - cholengedwa lapadera, koma, mulimonse, izo zikhoza ukugwira limaoneka lokoma awo kuti nyama zina. The amanena kuti mitala ali chiyambi chake kuthengo, si chatsopano. Asayansi ambiri ankakhulupirira kuti munthu, monga abale athu ang'onoang'ono, angathe kulamulira achibadwidwe achikale. Tiyeni tione masiku dziko nyama ndi kujambula zina kufanana. Ngati ife zichokera chiphunzitso ichi, mwayi wa monogamy si mkulu. Mu chikhalidwe, pali 5000 mitundu ya nyama ndipo anthu 3-5 okha ndi moyo kucheza ndi bwenzi limodzi. Pakati pa nyama "zoona" kuoneka mimbulu, beavers, otters ndi ena mitundu ina. Koma pakati pa "abale" athu Kanyaniko monogamy ndi wamba 6 peresenti zokha.

Ku maganizo a kusanduka

A mafotokozedwe otchuka kwa kusakhulupirika kuonedwa ndi chiphunzitso cha chisinthiko. zamaganizo ambiri ankati amuna amakonda kukhala ndi zibwenzi owonjezera m'banja chifukwa chilakolako wamwamuna kwa kubereka ana. Ku maganizo a kusanduka, amuna ndi akazi amakonda kusankha abwenzi abwino kwambiri kuti kupereka wamphamvu ndi wathanzi mbewu. Pomaliza, mitundu anthu kusintha, ndipo cholinga "amuna," kuyang'ana bwenzi wokongola anakhalabe. Tsopano anthu amawalandira anatengera mwambo wa ukwati, ndi kusakhulupirira - izo chabe Echo za ndondomeko mbiri.

Fathers zimakhudzidwa kubereka ana

Mitundu anthu ndi lapadera, kuwonjezera pa amayi, abambo komanso ali nawo polera ana. Mbali yaikulu ndi nkhani za achinyamata thandizo la ndalama, koma kugwirizana maganizo ndi pano. Poyerekeza ndi anyani ena, anthu ndalama makolo inachokera ku mokulirapo. Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo chikhalidwe ndi zamoyo zinachita, wantchito wa yunivesite ya Michigan Deniela Kryugera, anthu makamaka kwa ubwenzi ana awo. Koma pa yomweyo anthu nthawi, komanso ambiri nyama zina sanali okhulupirika kwa bwenzi limodzi. Mbali imeneyi akhoza monga "zofewa" mawonekedwe a mitala, kumene ambiri mwa anyamata Mwamuna ndi mkazi kuposa wina anafotokoza.

Munthu umalowa mu uzingopitirira odetsedwa awo

chiphunzitso lotsatira m'malo chikukhudza psychoanalysts. Ndipo mfundo imeneyi si chatsopano. Mwina munamvapo kuti ubale ochepa blunts maganizo pakati okonda. M'kupita kwa nthawi, wowopsa anataya mphamvu kuti akhoza asonkhezere abwenzi chilakolako. Anthu ambiri kukwatira kapena kukwatiwa Osatinso chifukwa. Chabe, penapake kwambiri maganizo akukhala lingaliro limene munthu uyu moyo wanu "bwino" iye ndi wabwino banja ndi mgodi (Hostess) ndipo adzakhala atate (amayi).

Komabe, vuto lomwelo Tingaone kufunafuna wosatha wa anthu magalimoto yapamwamba ndi zinthu kuwasindikiza. Ndipo malaya atsopano, ndi tchuthi nyanja angathe inu kukondwa. Ngati kukuchititsa zimenezi kumeza inu, inu amakodwa mu uzingopitirira imene palibe kuchoka pamaso. Palibe chinthu chimodzi sakukhoza zachabechabe wanu pamapeto pake. Car ndi foni mu zaka pang'ono ndi kwadzaoneni ndi lothandiza salinso kuonetsa udindo wanu. Ndicho chifukwa inu kupita kugula latsopano. N'chimodzimodzinso umaonekanso chilakolako cha anthu ena kupeza abwenzi atsopano, wamng'ono ndi wokongola kwambiri.

Ciwembu monga pofuna kuiwala

Chiphunzitso yotsatira ikufotokoza chilakolako cha kugonana kumbali ngati njira imodzi kudzaza ndi alibenso. Mu ichi kusakhulupirika choncho akhoza wachinsinsi kuti chimodzi modzi monga uchidakwa, mankhwala, fodya, njuga, kudya, ndi kugula chilakolako. Mavuto mu njira yomweyo kudzipatula kwa anthu chikumbumtima kudzimvera kuiŵala. Kulenga kudalira chidwi ndi chiyanjo cha atsikana. Choncho, opanda mkati wodzazidwa ndi okonda ambiri kapena kuthetsa wokonda yekha. Komabe nthawi zambiri kumverera uku ndi zabodza.

Amaona kuti mu nkhani iyi yokha kusakhutira ndi ukwati anthu awo kupita ku chinyengo. Komabe, ngakhale amphamvu, ndi chibwenzi chabwino anamanga pa chikondi, mungafune kugonana ndi munthu wina. Mwina akhoza chokhudzana ndi lingaliro la obsolescence wa cha ukwati yokha. Ngati munthu afuna yekha kuti ubale ndi bwenzi limodzi - palibe kanthu kuposa chidina zakale, asintha.

mumaganiza latsopano chikhalidwe

Khumi zapitazi waona funde weniweni zosangalatsa zomwe zimalimbikitsa mitala ngati njira yothetsera mavuto ambiri m'banja. Anthu poyera salinso kulandira alipidwa puritanical chitsanzo ubale, zochokera kulankhulana ndi bwenzi limodzi. Izo zinachokera pa azimuth ambiri kumusonyeza anthu motsutsa ganizo chachikale chinkawavuta ukwati. Anthu ambiri mantha ndi chiyembekezo amangochita mbali moyo limodzi ndi munthu wina, koma ambiri - ndi chiyembekezo kwambiri ubale yaitali.

Anyamata ndi atsikana onse pambuyo ukwati amakonda kulankhulana yochepa popanda kutsatira. Iwo samafuna kuchita ntchito, sindikufuna kudalira naye kapena bogged pansi pa nkhani za m'banja. Ambiri samafuna kuti bajeti wamba, ndipo akazi akufuna kukhala ntchito, osati kubereka ndi kulera ana. Aliyense amafuna kukhala motakasuka, popanda nsanje ndi mkwiyo, palibe amene amafuna kuchita ntchito pa nokha kuti ubwenzi wolimba. Zimakhala zosavuta kutsegula malo mitala awo, ndipo nthawi yomweyo anagona pamodzi ndi inu maudindo onse.

Ku maganizo a mwambo ndi khalidwe

Okwatirana, iwo malonjezo ena onse ndi malonjezo. Komabe, zoona, mawu awa wokongola sangathe mfundo za makhalidwe abwino. Palibe ali ndi ufulu umwini kwa munthu wina. Sitingathe malonjezo kukhala ndi munthu muyaya. Makamaka ikusonyeza kumapeto, mu theka la milandu malonjezo sizingatheke. Ife sangaumirize munthu zoyenera kuchita ndi zomwe sizikuyenda. Ndicho chifukwa lingaliro kuyika siginecha pa chikalata ndi kuika mnzanu pa chala mphete ndi zosiyana ndi boma lathu lachibadwa ufulu. Ndicho chifukwa mlingo chilekano kwambiri.

Pomaliza

The mphamvu kugonana munthu amakoka kudzoza, zilandiridwenso ndi nyonga. Ubwenzi zokulitsa mphamvu wodzilamulira nzeru ndi kuzamitsa mlingo chikondi. Yonena za munthu wina amalola kuzamitsa zinachitikira chikondi. Khulupirira pa nthawiyo amalenga otetezeka ndi kupereka mwayi wopeza milingo apamwamba a boma la kutsitsimuka. Komabe, m'madera ena awiriawiri malo analengedwa mozungulira iwo akhoza zimaphulika ngati sopo kuwira. Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi palibe mmodzi ndi otetezeka.