Ndi chikondi chimene

Munthu aliyense kamodzi pa moyo wanu ndikudabwa "mmene kuchotsa chikondi kusiya." Amaona kuti ndi zambiri khalidwe la kugonana ofooka, koma si choncho. Monga anthu ambiri sanalembe ndipo si nthawi zonse bwino kufotokoza maganizo awo pa nkhani zimenezi. Chikondi ubwenzi anthu kumakhudza yaikulu tsiku ndi tsiku komanso akazi. A paradoxical zinthu: aliyense ali ndi mwayi kugula iliyonse zapaderazi, kupeza maphunziro awiri ndipo ngakhale atatu apamwamba, koma pa zinthu zofunika kwambiri, kulankhula, mwamsanga, kamodzi aliyense waiwala. Motero, munthu Atamaliza sukulu, koleji, amadziwa zambiri za loukitsa Akufa, koma moyo wake ndi chikhalidwe wamangidwa, chodalira kwambiri yodziŵiratu zinthu pasadakhale. Ngakhale kumvetsa zochita zawo - ndi maziko, amene kupanga ubale wolimba ndi anthu ena, kupanga anthu kukhala abwino.

ndi chikondi, imene ena akuyesetsa kuti amuchotsepo chiyani? Popanda kupita intricacies wa psychoanalysis, mawu akunena kwa anthufe timafuna kucheza ndi atsikana. Ndipo osati mwathupi, koma mwauzimu. Chikondi Vutoli kusonyeza chimodzi mwa mfundo zauzimu, chifukwa malongosoledwe ndi singathe ya kulingalira ndi maganizo. Zifukwa kulemekezedwa Freud kale ndi mafunso ndipo sindingathe kufotokoza zimene zikuchitika chathunthu.

Chifukwa munthu akhoza kukhala bwinobwino yekha popanda kumverera akumanidwa chilichonse, pamene ena akufuna zonse kulankhulana ndi munthu wina? Ichi ndi chikondi. Kale kuti palibe chinsinsi chimene amuna ndi akazi ali ndi mphamvu zosiyanasiyana. Kwambiri ziphunzitso esoteric mumaona. Izi n'zosavuta kwambiri onetsetsani: suffices kuti muzione zina ndi kutanthauzira zochita zawo kwa iwo. Komanso, musakhale wabisa masuku zinachitikira moyo ndi mfundo zomveka.

Mwachitsanzo, ambiri mabanja sindikumvetsa kumene kukopa wapita, chifukwa omwe anaganiza kuti akonze banja. Posachedwapa, izo zonse zinali zabwino, koma patatha zaka zochepa (kutalika kwa nthawi zimatengera pa makhalidwe a) Munthu pafupi amakhala ngakhale kutali kwambiri kuposa kale naye. Kusintha maonekedwe, omwe kaŵirikaŵiri akuwachititsa kusintha maganizo, si nthawi zonse chifukwa chenicheni. Zingatanthauze kuti anthu omwewo, ndipo alibe chikhumbo kumeneko, izo zinachoka muyaya. Ichi ndi chifukwa chikwanire mphamvu kukopa kwake kwa munthu wina. Ndipotu chidwi chimazilala. Koma monga mukudziwa, mu chikhalidwe cha wachabechabe sizichitika, anthu anayamba kuyang'ana kwa chinthu chatsopano cha chikondi ndipo kawirikawiri wapeza. Ayamba msinkhu wina wamalonda mphamvu, cholengedwa 'chikondi. Pamafunika pang'ono nthawi ... ndi chirichonse mobwerezabwereza. Choncho anasonyeza chikondi. Munthu sangakhoze kukhala moyo wabwinobwino, komabe yekha. Ndi zoipa? Palibe yankho limodzi kulibe. Ku maganizo a makhalidwe ndi Zamakhalidwe - ziri zoyipa. Koma chikhalidwe cha munthu, "anatero" zosiyana.

Mabanja imene munthu akungoganiza amadalira chikondi mabwenzi, tikhoza amalangiza kuphunzira sublimation - m'malo kukopa kulenga chiyambi. Mwachitsanzo, mkazi osowa tikhoza kuganiza za chikondi chatsopano, pamene moyo wonse: woyendayenda, salons ndi boutiques, ntchito ndi ana ndi mwamuna wake, iye anali powasamalira (kupereka mphamvu). Monga amuna: chikondi kukopeka n'kukhala nyumba nyumba, nyumbayi inali kumangidwa, utakhala ankakonda chinthu (nsomba, galimoto masewera). Ndi njira yofunika kwambiri - kugwiritsa ntchito thandizo la katswiri. Kawirikawiri otchuka ndipo imathandiza chithandizo mu gulu kukhulupirirana. Koma mu nkhani iyi anayenera poyera kuvomereza chosowa kudalira kuti ingathetsedwe osati aliyense.