Achinyamata pakati

Pakali pano, vuto ofunika paphwando oyambirira amayi. Zifukwa kuti chaka chilichonse ambiri amayi apakati pa zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu angatchedwe ambiri, kuphatikizapo kusowa zodzitetezera pa umoyo wa ana ndi achinyamata, achinyamata umbuli pankhani ya kulera ndi banja akagonana, otsika chikhalidwe mlingo wa achinyamata a lero, ndi zina zotero. Zonsezi kumabweretsa chakuti amayi achinyamata wayamba wamng'ono. Kunadetsa anayamba kulembetsa achinyamata pakati pa zaka 14.

Unyamata ndi yovuta kwambiri pa moyo wa mwana amene ikutha kukhala mwana, koma zisanathe wamkulu, amatha kupanga zosankha zazikulu, monga kubadwa kwa mwana. Komanso, pakati atsikana ndi physiologically maganizo ikali chifukwa ndi ntchito zovuta monga gestation, kubadwa ndipo analeredwa mwana akhoza kukhala amadziwa kuopsa zimenezi.

Nthawi zambiri, achinyamata ndi pakati, atsikana zaka 15-16, anaphunzira za vuto lawo, ndekha, chifukwa makolo awo sizigwirizana (makamaka ngati asocial banja), atate wa mwana, monga ulamuliro, kusiyiratu kapena akukana kuvomereza bambo ake, akulu kutsutsa ndi amakana kuthandiza. Komabe, tiyenera kukumbukira kuti achinyamata pakati chifukwa cha lability awo psyche ndekha sindingathe kupirira mavuto psycho-maganizo, ndipo akhoza kuthetsa chisoni.

Kukambirana kaya kusiya mimba kapena kuchotsa mimba (ngati nthawi alola) ndi onse a m'banja, sakhoza anasiya Mtsikana ndekha ndi nkhani imeneyi. Ngati banja siligwirizana ndi malo pakati pa anthu amene akanatha kuthandiza achinyamata pakati lero akhoza kufunsira zodzitetezera pa umoyo ndi kuthandiza malo apadera, ndipo unayamba kuonekera osati kale mu Russia. Onse chithandizo ndiponso maganizo. Pali ikuchitika kafukufuku wa gynecologist ndi tanthauzo la mimba ndi kubereka, Kupenda zokhudzana akatswiri ndi ntchito yothandiza ndi maloya.

Komabe, vuto la mimba oyambirira si kuthetsa. Ndipo zoona, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu onse chikhalidwe m'munda wa mfundo za jenda, komanso ndi thandizo la ofotokozera kukambirana ndi achinyamata zokhudza kulera, ndi zamaganizo ntchito monga gulu komanso aliyense payekha pa nkhani ya mgwirizano pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, ndi achibale. Mwatsoka, chikhalidwe cha achinyamata masiku ano achinyamata ambiri alibe maganizo, Chioneke ubwenzi yachibadwa pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Chirichonse chimene kwake chi media, malonda, mafilimu ndi intaneti amalenga mu maganizo a achinyamata zosayenera maganizo pa kugonana. Achinyamata ndi chibwenzi chogonana, kuyambira zaka 11-12, osati kudziŵa bwino nkhani, nthawi zambiri kunyalanyaza kulera. Zonse zimene aphunzitsi akunena mu ukoma wa kuuma unyamata kukhala "akulu" amaona molakwika.

Njira yabwino yopewera mimba oyambirira ndi yoyenera maphunziro kugonana kwa ana, kuyambira zaka chisanadze sukulu, m'pofunika kukhala ndi maganizo oyenera anyamata ndi kufotokoza "kodi ana akuchokera." Chifukwa achinyamata ambiri funso adakali chosadziwika mpaka ndiye, mpaka kudziwa zawo. Koma njira yokha amadziwika kuti ophunzira onse a mibadwo yonse.

Koma ngati zinachitika kale, ndipo kumbuyo n'zosathekadi, m'pofunika kuyesa mwana analandira chithandizo chifukwa ndi maphunziro, ndipo ambiri Chofunika, kuti iye anali makolo.