Ine ndikufuna kukwatira kapena kupanga munthu anapereka kukumana

mumalankhula ndi phunziro mwachisoni akudutsa ansangala ndi osangalatsa, inu nthaŵi yanu ufulu limodzi, ena za chipambano awo, ziyembekezo, maloto, koma akadali kuitana anzanu wina ndi mnzake. Wina ayenera kutenga sitepe yoyamba, ndipo iye amakhulupirira kuti imeneyi ndiyo munthu. Koma ayenera woyenera kumuthandiza mu ichi, ndi kumvetsa mmene kupanga munthu anapereka kukumana.

Sitepe yoyamba ndi kuchitapo kanthu pa manja awo. Sikuti onse mwachibadwa amasonyeza kuti sakufuna kudikira motalikira ndi akufuna asapita yomweyo. The kanthu ayenera kubwera si chinthu choyamba, ndi zinthu zina kulankhulana, chigamulo chofunika kwambiri ndi kwambiri anapuma ndi munthu.

Si chinsinsi kuti yodziŵiratu zinthu pasadakhale wa mkazi ndi amphamvu kwambiri ndi woona chinthu, kotero usaope ntchito. Kumvetsa mmene kupanga munthu anapereka kukumana, kuthandiza malangizo awa: Mvetserani kwa mtima wanu, kutsatira maso ake, manja, magulu ndi mawu. Ndizo zonse izo angakuuzeni mmene muchokera. Ngati iye ndi chikhulupiriro chonse kuti amayikondabe mnyamatayo, n'zosavuta kwambiri kuti athe kanikizirani chigamulo.

Si chinsinsi kuti mwamuna aliyense kupembedza matamando ndi Kuthokoza, ndipo ndi bwino ngati pang'ono ophimbidwa. Musaiwale kum'tamanda, iye adzakhala kwa inu wopambana mu maso ake. Koma tiyeneranso kukumbukira za kuwunikidwa: iliyonse kuzizwa mphindi adzatsogolera chakuti munthu kuganizira za idealization, iye safuna ubwenzi woterewu.

Mu nthawi yathu, kukakomana ndi munthu amene akhoza kumva mtsikana zovuta. Koma ngati mwamuna wako wachita zimenezi, ndipo ndinu wokonzeka ubale ndi iye, mukumvetsera kwa inu. Nthawi zonse kudziwa kuti ali ndi kumbuyo odalirika ndi chithandizo. Chisoni ndi kumvetsera muyenera modzipereka, popanda chinyengo, ndipo chinyengo. Pa mlingo uwu tingathe chakuti mudzakhala omasuka ndi woonamtima ndi mzake, iwo akhoza otetezeka pafupi ndi mkazi. Kodi china chimene muyenera kuchita ndi momwe kuti munthu anapereka kukumana?

Amaumiriza mnyamatayo, nayenso, ayi zosatheka, kotero muyenera kukweza tcheru chanu chakuti mawu ali m'kamwa mwanu ndi khalidwe mukuchita. Palibe munthu akufuna kukhala "pansi pa chidendene", choncho m'pofunika amachita zidule akazi, koma musaiwale nthawi yomweyo kusamalira ndi kutenga kwa icho chiri.

akazi ambiri molakwa kuti maloto ndendende kulankhula za malo enieni a zochitika. Ndipo ambiri amakhulupirira kuti mukudziwa zimene chachilendo maloto munthu - buku latsopano. Buku kumbali maloto, masomphenya kwenikweni limatanthauza kusintha mwamsanga malo mu ubale pano kwambiri ndi chinthu chikondi chake. Mungasangalale ngati inu ndimalota ndi: Ine ndikuganiza mwamuna wako ali mu thumba lanu!

Ngati zidule wanu wonse munthu akadali sanamvetse kuti inu - theka lake zina, muyenera kuganizira zinthu zimene iye angathe kuzindikira kufunika kwa chuma, amene ali pansi pa mphuno yake. Mutha kulankhula ndi amuna ena kampani ina, koma osati kukhala ndekha ndi iwo. Ngati munthu chanu n'cholimba ndipo akufuna kukwaniritsa kufunika kulikonse ndi nthawi, nthawi zonse khutu ku khalidwe lanu. Kuti timvetse mmene kupanga munthu anapereka kukumana ngati wamanyazi, nzeru kwambiri Sikuti: monga kuleza mtima ndi kusankha njira ina.

Malamulo yosavuta ndi chimwemwe chanu nthawi zonse adzakhala pafupi inu!