Kodi ine chikondi changa munthu ... funso kapena malangizo?

Wina ndi udindo kuwerenga ngati kuti funso wopita kwa mtsikana, chabwino, ine kuwerenga ake "wogona", kotero mwina munthu amene adzakhumudwe osati kupeza malangizo olondola ndiponso mabuku, kodi kupanga mtsikana kutsimikizira wake Ndimakonda munthu. Ndinawerenga njira iyi, kotero ine ndikupepesa kwa anthu amene tsiku ndi tsiku chidwi, ludzu zofuna za sayansi kapena katswiri chitukuko kukhala unmet. Tengani Izitu n'zovutitsa mwachibwanabwana funso limeneli, limene ife kutchereza.

Kapena pali njira ina ... kuwerenga izo zonse: anyamatawa ndi atsikana, chifukwa chiyani, mfundo, chikondi chake cha umboni njira kusiyana kwa munthu, inu mukuona ... funso si polankhula.

Kuchokera m'nkhani ino, ine ndinaganiza, ili ndi funso munthu tsiku kapena chinachake basi Nkhani, losafuna, amene ntchito kokha kunena kuti kukambirana za - mmene chikondi ... Kapena mwina akufuna kuti sitepe ndi sitepe malangizo ...

Choncho tinaitana kuti nthawi zina mafunso ofunika kwambiri okha kuyesera kubisa kumbuyo phindu ndipo si kukopa chidwi cha mawu ndi cliches trite. Zachitikiranji zimenezi? Ine sindikuganiza kuti aliyense adzatha tiyankhe funso limeneli, ndipo si kupanda nzeru kapena zochitika. Mu lingaliro langa, choncho vuto palokha, iwo uli gulu la anthu kuti Mfundo za kudziwika kapena chiphunzitso amatipeza kungadzutse nambala kuposa mafunso. Kotero, momwe chikondi chanu ... munthu musati amafanana pali chinachake akuti ichi ndi chinachake zomveka, kuti ntchito chinachake chodabwitsa monga chikondi wolimba ngati chinachake manyazi?

Tsiku lililonse pamaso panga pali mazana, nthawi zina zikwi achinyamata - ophunzira, osiyana kwambiri nkhawa zawo, maganizo, mtima ndi maganizo ambiri. Ine ndikuwawona iwo mu kalasi, komwe maso awo anamwalira mu misa, zokambirana, pamene aliyense angathe ndi kuona ubale wao ndi mzake, onani nampsopsonetsa atakhala pa sill zenera ndipo pa magome a wophunzira podyera. Ine ndikhoza kuona ndi kumvetsa mmene akonzedwa ubale, cikondi, alipo mwa anthu amenewa. Ndipo kodi onsewo pa nthawi inayake ubale, okha kuti chikondi chanu kapena kufunafuna njira kutsimikizira izi? Ndiyesa kuti akhoza kukhala mobwerezabwereza mwakhama ayeserere theorems masamu, mungathe kutsimikizira kanthu kalikonse mu bwalo ... koma ndiye, ngati pali zambiri ntchito kwa malo mawu amenewa?

Pali funso lina, koma nthawi yaitali bwanji kutsimikizira? Wina wotchuka ananena kuti ayenera moyo wonse, mwina, koma ndiye funsolo limakhala tanthauzo, chifukwa umboni wa chikondi chimakhala tanthauzo la moyo. Ndipo apa ndipo mukapempha chinachake chokhala ngati yankho: kupeza umboni wa chikondi, inu mumangokhala chifukwa munthu uyu, amene muli ndi kutsimikizira izo.

Mwachitsanzo, kudziwa kuti asonyeze munthu chikondi, ayenera kaye chisamaliro palokha. Mwina zikumveka paradoxical, koma si akufunazo zosavuta, ndi kukhazikika bwino ndiponso chikhulupiriro chawo. Chifukwa ine ndikunena izo? Ndipo chifukwa kuganiza zomwe kuthetsa kapena kuthetsa chitsimikizo? Mark Anthony and Caesar, kutsimikizira chikondi chake Cleopatra, zaka zambiri watumiza zikwi za anthu kufa mu nkhondo osatha pakati Rome ndi Egypt, zoipa mercantile hunchback Talleyrand anasonyeza chikondi chake "kusuntha" malire a mitundu yonse mwa Napoleonic Europe, osati ndikuiwala kubwezeretsanso chikwama chake ndipo pali zitsanzo zambiri monga izi 'maumboni ". Kodi kuchita, mmene kutsimikizira mnyamata chikondi chake masiku ano, achinyamata munthu, amene sanabadwe anafika kutchuka ndi chuma cha Kaisara Talleyrand? Ine ndikuganiza, poyamba pa zonse, kodi n'komwe za izo. Inu basi kukonda - mawu, tiyenera kukhala wachisoni - indetu, m'pofunika kutumikira - osadziletsa manyazi ndi servility, ndiyeno inu mumvetsa ndiye - kukhulupirira, ndiye - kutsimikizira izo!

Ine ndimayang'ana pa ophunzira anga - ndipo onetsetsani kuti ndi osiyana, koma mungathe, ndi kutsimikizira, ndi chikondi, ndi bwino omwe sangathe kutsimikizira izo monga chiphunzitso wowopsa. maso awo, maso osangalala ndi kumwetulira, kundipsompsona kuthawa ena manja wochenjera kwambiri chidwi akulankhula za izo.

Ndipo ambiri, poyankha funso ili (ngati pali funso), ndi bwino zopanga n'zosiyana kwake, ndiye inu mukhoza kutenga molondola kwambiri ndipo ndi yankho othandiza kwa funso mmene chikondi changa munthu. Mukadziŵa mmene muyenera kukhala chodana ndi inu, iwo anasanduka pariah ndi fano choipa ndi wachiwiri, kenako kupeza yankho mu nkhani mutu wakuti.

Chikondi si kukangana ... ndi chikondi zosatsimikizirika inu nonse!