Kukhululukira ndi chiyani? Tanthauzo

Kukhululukidwa ndifunika kuiwala mawu okhumudwitsa amene munthu wokondedwa akunena. Nchiyani chomwe sungakhoze kukhululukidwa? Tiyeni tiyesere kumvetsetsa pamodzi kuti chikhululuko ndi chiyani. Tanthauzo la mawu amenewa limamveka mwa njira yake.

Kodi n'zotheka kulongosola cholakwacho

Si anthu onse okonzeka kulandira mawu okhululukidwa kwa wolakwira. Chifukwa chake n'chakuti iwo alibe chidziwitso chodziwikiratu kuti n'zotheka kukamba za chinyengo chenicheni chimene sichikhoza kuiwalika. Ngati mau osakondweretsa adanenedwa opanda cholinga, mungathe kumvetsera mawu a chikhululuko.

Zifukwa zochitira chipongwe

Kukhululukidwa sizomwe zifukwa kwa munthu amene amachitira nkhanza. Sichigwirizana ndi khalidwe la munthu yemwe adachita chiwembu. Kodi chikhululukiro cha machimo chiloledwa liti? Kwa wina yemwe wakhumudwa, ndani ali wokonzeka kuiwala za zochita zomwe wachita mwaulemu, izi ndi nsembe chifukwa cha chikondi, mgwirizano m'banja, mgwirizano mu gulu. Nthawi zina zoipazo zimayambitsa mwadala, zimakhala zovuta kupeza mphamvu kuti mupeze chifukwa cha zochita zoterezi. Koma akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti ndikofunikira kudzipezera mwaiwo mwayi wopezeka kukhululukidwa kwa wolakwira. Pachifukwa ichi, mutha kukhala ndi moyo waufulu, mtima wopepuka, simungagwere pansi pa katundu wolemetsa wa zoipa ndi zoipa. Koma wolakwira ali yense ayenera kulangidwa moyenera. Pa nthawi ya chikhululukiro, mudzasuntha cholakwa chanu m'manja mwa chiweruzo cha Mulungu, mpatseni mwayi wakuchita chilungamo. Musaiwale kuti chikhululuko chiridi lingaliro laumulungu, kusonyeza chifundo ndi chikondi, ngakhale kuti mukukumana ndi zoipa.

Mmene mungakhululukire mlandu

Sikuti anthu onse angathe kupempha chikhululuko kuchokera kwa munthu. Kuti achite izi, wolakwira ayenera kuzindikira kuti akulakwitsa. Kodi kukhululukidwa ndi chiyani? Chofunika cha mawuwa ndi kuiwala zazing'ono, osakhudza moyo woopsya. Pofuna kukhululukira mlandu, wolakwira ayenera kulapa moona mtima, kutsimikizira mawu ake ndi zochita zowonongeka, zochita zoyenera.

Kukhululukidwa

Kukhululukidwa ndi gawo lalikulu komanso lodziwika bwino lomwe limasonyeza chifuniro cha munthu amene wachita cholakwa kapena, Mulungu sakanachita, kuvulaza, koma anazindikira kuti malamulo ake ndi olakwika kwa munthu wolakwiridwayo. Pali malingaliro omwe omwe akuwakhululukira olakalaka zawo zoipa amaonedwa kuti ndi ofooka ndi ofooka. Zoona, izi ndizolakwika molakwika. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amatsimikizira kuti tanthauzo la mawu oti "chikhululukiro" ndilogwirizana kwambiri ndi mawonetseredwe a mzimu wamphamvu ndi chifuniro. Zimatengera khama lalikulu kuti mupeze mwayi wanu wozimitsa zisoni, udani, mkwiyo. Maganizo amenewa nthawi zambiri amachezera munthu, koma pofuna kuwachotsa, muyenera kuyesetsa mwamphamvu kwambiri. Sikuti aliyense angathe kunena kuti "kukhululukira". Kukhululukidwa kungapemphedwe kokha ndi anthu amphamvu kwambiri omwe ali ndi chitukuko ndi kudzikonda.

Kodi umamva bwanji?

Kusanthula kutanthauzira kwa mawu oti "chikhululukiro", tikuzindikira kuti chikhumbo choterochi chimangowoneka pakati pa anthu omwe adadziŵa kuti adasankha. Munthu akafuna kusiya kubwezera, sakufunanso kubwezera chiwonongeko chake, amataya chidwi chake, amabwerera ku chiyanjano ndi mtendere. Ndi chikhululukiro chomwe chimathandiza kutsegulira mtima, kotero kuti maganizo oipa ndi opsinjika omwe amawononga moyo ndi thupi apita. Nchiyani chimapatsa munthu chikhululukiro chenicheni? Mtengo wa chisankho ndi wovuta kuwunika, chifukwa ukhoza kudzipulumutsa ku manyazi, kupsya mtima, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, chidani, kudziimba. Ndi zoona, kukhululukira chikhululukiro munthu ali ndi kumverera kwa mtendere ndi dziko losangalatsa. Cholinga chonse chimadzazidwa ndi kukhazikika, chilakolako choyesa ntchito za anthu oyandikana nawo kupyolera mu ndondomeko yosautsa ndi zochitika zomwe zimachitika. Zotsatira zake, mabala akuya kwambiri amatsegulidwa, amachiritsidwa ndi mankhwala a machiritso, pambuyo pake ululu umatha. Mawu okhululukidwa a chikhululukiro angakhoze kufaniziridwa ndi mvula yamkuntho, yomwe imabweretsa moyo wa zomera zofota ndi mitengo ku chinyezi chake, kuwayeretsa iwo fumbi ndi uve, amatsitsimutsa chikhalidwe cha moyo. Mu moyo wake wonse, munthu amakhala mobwerezabwereza pa njira ya chikhululukiro.

Lekani kupita kumbuyo

Kodi tanthawuzo lotani la mawu oti "chikhululuko" ndi chiyani? Choyamba, tikukamba za kulandira kufotokoza kwa wolakwira. Kawirikawiri pali kusamvana pakati pa anthu chifukwa chakuti sanamvere wina ndi mnzake mpaka mapeto, samayesetsanso kumvetsetsa awo, kuwunika malo ake, kudziyika yekha. Zikuwoneka kuti m'mbuyomu munali zodandaula, mabala a mtima anali ataliatali, koma nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti kawirikawiri zimakhala zochitika m'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, zimakupangitsani kukumbukira nthawi yosakwiya ndi manyazi. Kukhululukira munthu mmodzi ndi kokwanira, koma kuyanjanitsa chiyanjano ndi chofunikira. Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti mwachita khama kuti mukhululukire wolakwa wanu, ndipo mbali yake ikupitirizabe kuchita zinthu zosayenera, yesetsani kumunyalanyaza. Ndi kulekanitsidwa kwa bwalo lakulankhulana pang'onopang'ono chidwi cha munthu wanu kumbali yake chidzafooka, ndipo simudzasowa manyazi. Ponena za chilango, wolakwirayo ayenera kuyankha pamaso pa bwalo lamilandu lalikulu chifukwa cha manyazi ake onse, zakukhosi kwake.

Zikumbutso zapanyumba

Zimakhala zovuta, pamene anthu oyandikana nawo komanso achibale akuchitira nkhanza anthu omwe amawadalira ndi mtima wonse. Ndikovuta kwambiri kukhululukira manyazi panyumba, kunyozedwa, chiwawa. Ziwerengero zimasonyeza kuti chifukwa cha mikangano yambiri ndi zokhumudwitsa zomwe zimachitika pakati pa okwatirana, vuto loyamba la psyche la mwanayo likuvutika. Mwanayo samvetsa chomwe anali nacho pamaso pa amayi ake kapena abambo ake, chifukwa chiyani pambuyo pa mkangano iwo amasamutsira malingaliro awo oipa kwa iye. Ali mwana, psyche ndi wosakhazikika, osatetezeka, choncho ngati mwanayo akuwoneka kuti ndiye amene amachititsa mavuto onse ndi mikangano m'banja, adzayesera kusunga makolo ake. Tsoka ilo, chiwerengero cha kudzipha pakati pa ana ndi achinyamata chawonjezeka posachedwapa.

Chikondi ndi Kukhululuka

Kodi mungatani kuti muthe kukumana ndi zonyansa zonse, kupeza mphamvu zoti mukhululukire? Aliyense amayesetsa kulimbana ndi maganizo amenewa m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Anthu ena amalembera kuti alowe kwa wodwalayo, ena amaumizidwa kuntchito. Pali ena amene amagwiritsa ntchito tanthauzo la kukhalapo kwawo pofunafuna njira zobwezeretsera wolakwira chifukwa cha manyazi ake onse. Zoipa zili ndi mphamvu zowononga. Kuyesera kulikonse kumabweretsa chiwonongeko cha umunthu wake, kutayika kwa chilakolako cholenga, kukonda, kusangalala ndi moyo.

Inde, simungakhoze kungoiwala za ululu umene mwakumana nawo. Koma, pokhala wodzipereka kuti mukhululukidwe, mukhoza kumasula mavuto, lolani chikondi ndi mgwirizano zilowe mu mtima mwanu. Mu moyo wanu padzakhala nthawi yatsopano yolenga, ndipo nthawi ya chiwonongeko ndi kuwonongedwa kudzakhalabe kale. Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ali ndi chizoloŵezi chatsopano, musayese kusunga banja lanu mwanjira iliyonse. Simungathe kumanga vase yomwe yasweka mu zidutswa zing'onozing'ono. Yesetsani kufufuza chomwe chiri chifukwa cha khalidwe lake (lomwe), kuti atenge mkhalidwewo momwemo, kuti apeze njira yoyenera kuchokeramo.

Momwe mungaphunzirire kukhululuka

Yesani kusintha moyo wanu, kuphatikizapo masewera olimbitsa thupi, sankhani zosangalatsa zabwino. Ngati izi sizikwanira kumvetsa ndi kukhululukira zokhumudwitsa zomwe zinachitidwa ndi munthu wina, pezani ntchito ina, kusintha (ngati nkotheka) dera lanu. Osati nthawi zonse chokhumudwitsa kuti am'khululukire, amavomereza kugwirizanitsa. Kodi ndi chofunika kukumbukira chiyani pamene mukukumana ndi chipongwe mu mtima mwanu? Choipa chimene inu mudzadzisungira mwa inu nokha, makamaka chidzakuchititsani kuwonongeka kwakukulu muthupi lanu. Mmalo mokondwera ndi moyo, kusangalala ndi kuyankhulana ndi anthu pafupi ndi inu, mudzakhala "whiner" weniweni, mukudandaula kosatha za olakwa anu. Zotsatira zake, pafupi ndi inu sipadzakhala pafupifupi omwe ali okonzeka kumvetsera zonsezi. Kodi mwakonzeka kuti izi zitheke? Kodi simukufuna kukhala mumkhalidwe wosasangalatsa? Ndiye mverani malangizo a akatswiri a zamaganizo a maganizo.

Malangizo a akatswiri

Ngakhale zachilendo zingamveke, akatswiri a maganizo amauza odwala awo, kuwauza momwe anakhumudwitsidwa ndi wokondedwa wawo, kuwerenga masalmo okhudza chikhululuko. Pokonzekera kuwerenga, anthu amakhala ndi malingaliro abwino, amasiya kuzindikira wolakwayo kuchokera kumbali yolakwika, yesetsani kumuyang'ana ndi maso osiyana. Pali zitsanzo zambiri za ndakatulo zoterezi. Simukukonda ndakatulo? Sankhani mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zojambulajambula zomwe zimatanthauzira muzondomeko momwe kulili kofunika kukhululukira munthu wina m'kupita kwanthawi, kuti mulole chikondi ndi chiyanjano mu mtima mwanu. Ndizosangalatsa komanso zothandiza kuti mudziwe bwino ntchito za Dostoevsky. Wolemba amapereka chisamaliro chapadera molingana ndi kuzunzidwa kwa makhalidwe a anyamata ake, kulakwa, ndi kufunafuna tanthauzo la kukhalapo. Pambuyo pa kufufuza mwatsatanetsatane kwa malemba a Dostoevsky, muwachitira anthu omwe anakupatsani mavuto ochuluka mosiyana, kukupwetekani. Padzakhala chikhumbo chokhululukira wochimwa, osati kudzikuza yekha ndi malingaliro, kuchotsa zilakolako. Munthu yekhayo amene amapambana "kumenyana" mumtima mwaukali amatha kuzindikira cholinga cha moyo, amasangalala ndi kukongola kwa dziko lozungulira.

Zotsatira za kusayera

Chiwerengero chachikulu cha mavuto a zaumoyo chimabwera mwachindunji chifukwa cha kukhumudwa. Anthu omwe sadziwa kukhululukira ndikufuna kuti aphunzire luso limeneli, nthawi zambiri amadwala nkhawa. Madokotala nthawi zambiri amatumiza odwala awo kukaonana ndi odwala matenda opatsirana pogonana, ngati atayesedwa ma laboratory sapeza chifukwa cha matenda awo. Kodi ndi chiyani chomwe chikhoza kuonedwa ngati zotsatira zoopsa kwambiri chifukwa cholephera kukhululukira wozunzayo?

Ngati munthu alibe mphamvu zokwanira kuti athe kuthana ndi zolakwikazo, ndipo amayandikira kwambiri ndi mawu onse okhumudwitsa, amamuchitira, amayesetsa kupeza njira yosavuta yothetsera mavuto. Kawirikawiri, zotsatira zake, munthu amene sanamvere mwatsatanetsatane, akukhumudwa, anasanduka chidakwa kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo.

Kutsiliza

Kukhululukira kumakupatsani inu kutsegula mtima wanu kuti mukhale ndi maganizo abwino. Musaiwale kuti mutatha kupeza mphamvu mwa inu nokha kuti muchotse zolakwika, moyo wanu wonse udzasintha kwambiri. Munthu amene amasangalala nthaŵi zonse, amakhala ndi chidwi pa zotsatira zake zonse, samakumana ndi mavuto omwe ali osiyana ndi "wonyansa." Yesani kusintha khalidwe lanu modabwitsa. Ndipo m'malo momangokhalira kugwirizana ndi anthu ena, yesetsani kukambirana momasuka. Mudzawona, masiku angapo, padzakhala kusintha kosangalatsa m'moyo wanu. Kukhululuka ndi njira yayitali komanso yovuta. Pang'onopang'ono muyenera kusintha maganizo anu m'mawu amenewa, zomwe zimakupangitsani inu kukhudzidwa maganizo, kuvutika kwa thupi. Sikuti nthawi zonse mawu a chikhululukiro omwe amalankhulidwa ndi wolakwa omwe amavomerezedwa mokwanira, kotero ndikofunikira kuphunzira momwe angamvetsere, kufufuza, ndi kukhululukira. Mwa njira! Nthawi zonse musamawakhululukire anthu ena. Mumoyo, palinso zochitika zomwe munthu mwiniwakeyo ayenera kudzikhululukira yekha pazochita zina motsutsana ndi achibale ake ndi abwenzi ake. Kwa anthu ambiri kukhululukidwa kwawo ndiko kovuta kwambiri, chifukwa muyenera kuvomereza zolakwa zanu ndi zolephera zanu, kupeza njira zothetsera makhalidwe oipa mwa inu nokha.