Nkhondo Maonekedwe

Pa mikangano kwambiri, ndikofunika kupeza njira kuthetsa iwo. mawu zingaoneke zoonekeratu, koma anthu ambiri kubisa mkwiyo wawo kapena kungoti "gwirizana." Iwo amaganiza kuti kuthetsa kusamvana - njira kulenga ena, kotero ingokhalani chete, ngati kusakhutira ndi chinachake. Mwatsoka, ndi zilakolako zoipa yaitali strategy. Pa dzanja limodzi, nkhondo sikukutha kungachititse kukhumudwa ndi zina mikangano m'banja. Komano, Chofunika kwambiri, nkhondo kupitirirabe kwenikweni kungasokoneze thanzi la munthu.

Mwatsoka, kuthetsa kusamvana, ndi zina zovuta. zoyesayesa Kusagwiritsa kwenikweni zingawonjezere vutolo.

Popewa izi, muyenera kudziwa njira zofunika kuthetsa mikangano.

Yokhudzana ndi maganizo awo

Mbali yofunika kuthandiza kuthetsa mavuto nkhondo, ndi kuzindikira maganizo ndi zomverera. Zingaoneke kuti maganizo anu Tikatenga kwa inu, koma izi sizichitika nthawi zonse. Nthawizina ife amakwiya kapena mkwiyo, koma sindikudziwa chifukwa chake. Nthawi zina, timakhulupirira kuti munthu wina sachita zimene iye "ayenera", koma sitikudziwa ndendende chimene ife tikufuna kwa iye. Choncho, zingakhale bwino kukumana ndi maganizo omwe, maganizo ndi ziyembekezo zawo.

Mukhale luso lanu kumvetsera

Pankhani Mwachangu mu chigamulocho nkhondo, ndikofunika luso la kumvetsera mwachidwi nkhani ya munthu wina. Ife tikudziwa mmene tingachitire monga zothandiza ngati kumvetsetsa maganizo awo ndi zomverera. Nkofunika kumvetsa nkhondo pa kaonedwe ka munthu wina, osati zawo, ngati tikufuna kuti abwere kwa pangano mangawawo. Ndipotu, kumvetsa yosavuta zimene muzimva kumvetsetsa - izi ndi njira yolondola kuthetsera vuto la "chikalata othamanga nkhondo."

Mwatsoka, kumvetsera mwatcheru - luso kuti aliyense nazo. A ambiri amalakwa poganiza kuti anthu aziganiza kuti iwo akumvera, ndi zoona mu malingaliro awo anakonza yankho izi, malingaliro Povunduka nokha, kuipa munthu wina, etc.

Kulankhulana ochangamuka

Aliyense akudziwa kuti cholakwika, ndemanga mwano atatiikira mafuta pa moto ndipo imathandiza nkhondo. Nkofunika kukhala wokhoza kunena zinthu zofunikira, yomveka bwino ndiponso wamakani, koma osati aukali, osati kuti munthu winayo kumbuyo. Imodzi mwa njira zothandiza kwambiri kuthetsa kusamvana pankhani imeneyi ndi ntchito strategy kudziletsa kutsirikidwa, "Ndikumva ..." (zoona, bata, etc.)).

Kufufuza yankho

Mukakhala kumvetsa maganizo a munthu wina, ndipo iye adzamvetsa wanu, ndi nthawi kupeza njira yothetsera kusamvana limene lidzayenere mbali zonse. Nthawi zina ndi bwino kumvetsa maganizo a interlocutor lapansi. Pankhaniyi, kupepesa zosavuta kungathandize ntchito zodabwitsa, ndi zokambirana lotseguka - kubweretsa anthu pafupi limodzi. Nthawi kumene nkhondo pa nkhani, imene pali kusiyana, pali zingapo zimene mungachite: simungathe kugwirizana ndi mzake, koma n'zotheka kupeza kukondera kapena pansi pakati. Kapena ngati inu otsimikiza kwambiri nkhaniyi ndipo akhoza kupanga wawo, koma ayenera kumvetsa kuti nthawi yotsatira muyenera kupereka njira.

ndikosatheka kuthetsa

Ngati mkangano kumatenga nthawi yaitali kwambiri, ndi zina zofunika kutsirizitsa mgwirizano ndi mdani kwa nyengo zina za nthawi kapena kalekale. Nthawi nkhanza Mwachitsanzo, kuopseza zachiwawa - chitetezo munthu n'kofunika. Polimbana ndi wachibale, onjezerani zoletsa zina, n'zotheka kukwaniritsa coexistence mtendere. The kugwirizana (ngati pomwe kuthetsa kusamvana n'zosatheka) m'pomveka amasiya kulankhulana. Mulimonsemo, kokha mukhoza kusankha kuti azigwirizana kapena adakali ndi anawo.