Zokhumudwitsa - Malipiro kwa idealizing

Zokhumudwitsa

Musanyengedwe - palibe zokhumudwitsa.

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Pokhumudwa ngati khalidwe la munthu - chizolowezi nkhawa ankayembekezera sizinachitike, ziyang'aniro ndi maloto, kugwa kukhulupirira munthu kapena chinachake.

Kukhumudwa - kulawa zowawa za idealizations anasungunuka. Moyo ndi chitsiru - chopereka cha zokhumudwitsa. Zingatanthauze kuti moyo zikondwerero anthu ambiri ndi utoto, koma aligorivimu kukhumudwa pa moyo banal yosavuta. Man amakhazikitsa ndi lolakwika cholinga chachikulu kapena chinachake duwa chithunzi. Nsembe ndi kunyalanyaza zambiri, si kuti cholinga chanu kapena moto, wofunitsitsa kuti likhale chinthu idealization, chiyembekeza ikuyembekeza kuti chinthu chabwino ndi kuwunika, khulupirirani Iye. Mbali yoyamba tikuona kuti akungotaya nthawi ndi mphamvu maganizo kayendedwe zimene sadzakhala kumusangalatsa. The chachiwiri n'chakuti kwambiri sindimakonda malamulo a chilengedwe chonse - kuphwanya boma mgwirizano. zolakwika aliyense, kumwa ndi imbalances chimwemwe mphamvu mgwirizano, ndipo iwo kulanga munthu chifukwa atakhala idealization wake wa mumtima.

Zokhumudwitsa - limasangalatsa zongopeka, maganizo idealized. Kuphweka Kodi mwala. Ngati munthu agonjera kufunika kwambiri chakudya, kugonana, ndalama, chuma, mphamvu mgwirizano akuyesetsa kulibweretsa mgwirizano. Idealized ubwenzi - kupeza kuperekedwa kwa abwenzi, idealized kugonana - Khalani wolumalayu, idealized galimoto, nyumba, ndalama - palibe vuto, kuligonjetsa, koma popanda thanzi ndi ndekha. Munthu angatenge chuma lamoto. Monga mnyamata kukhala opusa unyolo zokhumudwitsa. Nabil cones, anachiritsa maganizo ndipo anapita kukafuna kulakwitsa komweko. Igor Guberman umapereka: "Chifukwa cha chimwemwe cha chikondi zomverera ululu kamodzi pachimake kulipira, ife tiri mantha masewera atsopano kuti kunyamula kondomu mu moyo wanga." Patapita zaka, pamene kusiyana ndi yotheka, kukhumudwa amakhala makhalidwe.

Kuya chachikulu cha kukhumudwa munthu wapeza zimene wonse unali. Young banja anandiyambitsa mwana chaka anakalamba ndipo mayi anga anati: "Mwamsanga mwananga anabadwa, moyo wathu watha. Tsopano timakhala naye. " The mwana adamva, ndipo iye ali ndi munga munakhala mu maganizo a lingaliro: "Ine ndine mkulu wa banja. moyo wanga - phindu lalikulu ". Akamakula, izo wavomerezedwa mu maganizo ndi Center wa dziko, kuti dzuwa kuti kotulukira m'mawa si kuti sikukanakhala ine. Terry kukula odzikonda, osati anazolowera kuganiza ndi kusamalira za munthu. Apo pakubwera nthawi imene amalenga m'banja lake. Mayi, amene pamoyo wake, amakhulupirira kuti pamene iye anali moyo chifukwa cha mwana wake, zingakhale chilungamo ngati ndi moyo chifukwa cha izo, kapena, pafupifupi, adzasamalira ake. Koma mwana si kafungo maganizo amenewa opusa. Chabwino, tsiku lokumbukira kubadwa labwino ndi la 8 la March. Amayi akuona kukhumudwa zoopsa maganizo. Tsopano kusowa chimakhala chizindikiro cha khalidwe lake. Izi akazi amathedwa pambuyo zaka makumi - miyandamiyanda.

Nthawi zambiri, iwo kumvetsa chifukwa cha ukali wake wa moyo, koma simungathe kukonza kanthu. Moyo kwalembedwa popanda kuwongolera, zaka zapita, akale ntchito mutu wake inde pa mapewa wamng'ono. Ndipo kodi chifukwa mwala? Chabwino, izo likukhalira, mwana sayenera kukonda? Tiyenera zambiri akamavutika. Koma kulingana ndi maphunziro a ana m'pofunika kukhala ndi cholinga chachikulu si nkhani, koma zolinga zauzimu. Chimwemwe yauzimu. Pezani wauzimu m'nkhaniyo, onse, kuti pali dziko mu chiyembekezo chotulukako kuti chitsulo thupi. cholinga Financial mwana - thanzi, maphunziro ndi zinthu bwino ndi mwamuna wabwino. Mkazi malinga ndi chikhalidwe chake amamuchititsa moyo ana, kuwasamalira. Koma maphunziro - Osangopereka kudyetsa, kumwa, ndi kugona anagona. Education - chitukuko mu ulemu wa mwanayo, ndiyo ya makhalidwe abwino a munthuyo, ndi luso kupereka kukoma mochuluka wauzimu wa chimwemwe. Mwana ayenera kumvetsa kakomedwe ka chimwemwe kumwetulira oyamikira ya wokondedwa chosonyezera solicitude kwa iye.

M'malo mwake, iye akudzinenera kuti ali Mchombo wa Dziko Lapansi, kuphunzitsa anyamata udindo ndi kusamalira anthu ena. Mwachitsanzo, zaka zisanu mwana mayi limati: "Ine nthawizonse kuiwala muzisamba m'manja pambuyo kuyenda. Kodi mumandikumbutsira pamene ife tipite kwathu, tiyenera kusamba m'manja "Pakuti mwana ndi masewera, ndipo pa nthawi yomweyo, maphunziro a udindo ndi khama - zinthu ziwiri zazikulu za munthuyo. Pang'onopang'ono kulera mwana wanga kulemekeza zofuna zake, nkhawa ndi nkhawa, mayi anga mu moyo si anaumitsa, egotist wodzikonda ndipo udindo, wodzidalira, kusamalira munthu amene konse mayi ake.

Kukwera si kuti cholinga chake komanso ana amakumana ndi wosasangalala. Palibe ndi mmodzi akhale ndi cholinga wauzimu - kulera kukoma mtima, kudzichepetsa ndi kudziletsa, bamboyo ananena cholinga chachikulu cha moyo wa zomangamanga ndi kunyumba kusintha. Iwo amakhala kwa zaka zambiri monga kapolo wopalasa ngalawayo, ndipo potsiriza anamaliza nyumba. anthu ambiri, akonzekeretse izo, ndiye kupezera. Womanga nyumba, iye ankafuna kutsimikizira okha ndi ena kufunika ndi tanthauzo. Mlendo cholinga zichokera kunja - mchikakamizo cha olakwika ndi ziphunzitso zonyenga, zikhulupiriro ndiponso zochita za anthu ena. M'nyumbamo, koma kumverera kwa chimwemwe wakhala ndipo sizidzakhala konse. Anthu kumanga mapulani odzitukumula, maloto, fomu idealization ake za maganizo, ndipo kufika "wokondedwa" zolinga amadziwa kuti muli ndi yabodza, ndi surrogate zimene akulakalaka. Iwo anayamba kuona kuti khama si ofunika nthawi anakhala ndi mphamvu. Ditching moyo wa zimenezi zimafuna yokonza zonse ndi kusamalira kunyumba, mwamuna kumapeto kwa moyo adzakhumudwe.