Kodi pali mafunso ati?

Aliyense kamodzi pa moyo wake anali ndi nkhawa. Mwamtheradi aliyense amazunzidwa ndi mafunso osatha omwe alipo. Ndi chiyani? Kuwopa kwamuyaya, chifukwa cha ziwonetsero zomvetsa chisoni pa kuwonongeka kwa kukhala, mantha a imfa yam'mbuyomo ... Aliyense amamva zowawa izi: wina wochuluka, ndi ena ochepa. Nkhani ya mkango, monga akatswiri (psychologists and psychotherapists), amapita kwa anthu omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kupititsa patsogolo zovuta za moyo, zomwe palibe amene amaphunzitsa kuteteza ufulu wawo ndi kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo. Gawoli limaphatikizapo ana amasiye kapena omwe adasiyidwa opanda makolo oyambirira.

Chofunika cha kukhalapo kwadziko

Winawake amapeza tanthauzo la kukhala, kukhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu. Winawake amapeza njira yodzidzimitsira yokha kupyola malingaliro ndi zifukwa zowonongeka. Njira imodzi yothandizira kuthetsa mavuto a anthu ndi psychotherapy.

Mafunso ofunikira, malinga ndi akatswiri ochita masewera a psychotherapy, kuti athe kukhalapo payekha ndi vuto lawo, munthu amene amaganiza kuti: "Ndingadziwe bwanji ndekha?". Kuti apeze mayankho, munthuyo adayesetsa kupeza njira zothetsera moyo wake ndikutanthawuza: adali ndi chidziwitso, amasamalira ena, adadzipereka yekha ku zovuta zomwe adaziwona kuti ndi zofunika, adziphunzira kukonda ndi kukondedwa.

Ntchito ya psychotherapy sikuyenera kukhutira ndi kubwereza malingaliro ndi mfundo za dziko lapansi lalikulu. Cholinga cha chilango chimenechi ndi kuthandiza munthu kudziwa zoyenera kulumikizana ndi kumanga ubale ndi anthu ena.

Epicurus wa Samos

Kudzipindulitsa mwa kufunafuna mayankho kwa mafunso omwe alipo alipo nkhani yomwe siikondweretsa osati akatswiri amakono okha. Mwachitsanzo, wafilosofi wakale wa Chigiriki Epicurus, ankakhulupirira kuti mantha aakulu a anthu anali kuopera kutaya moyo wake. Zinali pa mutu uwu kuti iye ankapereka ntchito yake yambiri, kufunafuna cholinga chabwino: kuthandiza anthu wamba kupulumuka mantha awo akulu.

Ntchito yake inawonetsedwa ndi Epicurus wa ku Samos pothandiza anansi ake, kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa cholinga chachikulu cha moyo-kukhala wosangalala. Poganizira mkhalidwe waukulu wopeza chisangalalo, kupeza zosangalatsa, filosofi wamkulu wakale anaika mu lingaliro limeneli tanthauzo losamvetsetseka kwa munthu wamakono. Kukondwera kumvetsetsa Epicurus ndiko kusautsidwa kwa thupi ndi m'maganizo, ndiko kuti, kusagwirizana ndi kusayera, kususuka komanso kukhutira chilakolako.

Ntchito ya katswiri wa maganizo

Munthu wamba sangayerekeze kuti ayambe kulingalira za zomwe zilipo zokhudzana ndi kukhalapo kwa anthu. Komabe, atamva kuti moyo wake, mophiphiritsira, "umayenda mumsewu wopotoka", "amaima" kapena "kuthamanga kale", akufunsanso yekha. Ochita mantha chifukwa chosowa zochitika zirizonse, munthuyo, akugwirizanitsa zopanda pake ndi kukhalapo kwa zizoloŵezi zake zoipa kapena kusokonezeka kwa makhalidwe ake ena, amatha kufunsa funso loyenera kwa katswiri wa maganizo. Maso ake, katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi munthu yemwe angasinthe moyo wake, kumuthandiza kupeza gawo latsopano, losangalatsa la moyo.

Kumvetsetsa zochitika zomwe zimadzaza moyo - ndi chisonyezero cha njira yawo yokhayo komanso yosagwirizana ndi makhalidwe ake, sichibwera msanga. Choncho, mafunso omwe alipo alipo ogwirizana ndi moyo wa munthuyo, osati makhalidwe ake. Katswiri wa zamaganizo wa existential samayesetsa kuti "Ine" weniweni ndi weniweni wa wothandizira, koma amapereka omaliza kuti amvetsetse zomwe zimachitika pamoyo wawo ndikuchita zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti atuluke pa zovutazo.

Zovuta za moyo ndi zachirengedwe

Zovuta za moyo ndizochitika zachilengedwe, ndipo munthu amene sadziwa momwe angayang'anire mavuto omwe amachititsa moyo wake, mwayi watsopano, "kukhumudwa pomwepo," osadziŵa kumene angayende. Kumverera kwa umwini ndi umwini wa ufulu wosankha kumadza ndi kuzindikira kuti munthu aliyense ndi amene amamanga moyo wake. Ntchito ya katswiri wa zamaganizo - kulingalira mafunso omwe alipo omwe akukumana ndi mavuto ena, amuthandize kuti ayandikire pafupi kuzindikira kuti zochitika zomwe zikuchitika tsopano ndi zotsatira za zochita zomwe zinachitika kale.

Malingana ndi pulofesayo, dokotala wa zamankhwala ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo yemwe alipo kale Emmy Van Dortzen, munthu aliyense ayenera kudzipangira yekha ngati ayenera kusintha ndi kuchuluka kokhala wosangalala ndi mfulu. Wasayansi wina amavomereza kuti anthu ena omwe awona kufunika kwa moyo wawo akhoza kukhala ndi chikhumbo chosiya kusintha, ndipo adzachita zabwino, chifukwa ndizo kusankha kwawo.

Wothandizira wa psychotherapy gulu, Irvin David Yalom, monga anzake ogwira nawo ntchito, adalonjeza kuti amakhulupirira kuti moyo umakhala nawo, nthawi zambiri amasonyeza mavuto ake. N'zosatheka kupeza mayankho a mafunso omwe alipo, komanso nkhani zazikulu zokhudzana ndi kubadwa ndi imfa, kusankha kwaulere ndi kufunika, kusungulumwa ndi kudalira, tanthauzo ndi wopanda pake. Koma chifukwa chakuti munthu sangamve kukhuta kwa moyo mpaka atadza kumapeto kwake yekha, chidwi chenicheni chimaperekedwa ku phunziro la mafunso onse a anthu ndi akatswiri a maganizo omwe alipo.

Kodi mungachotse bwanji maganizo anu opanda pake?

Zochitika zenizeni zimakhala ndi nkhawa anthu nthawi zonse. Kufalikira kwa iwo kumawoneka motere: "Mmene mungachotseretu nzeru zopanda pake za dziko lapansi?". Ulendo wopita ku ofesi ya odwala maganizo ndi, poyamba, kusanthula zochitika za moyo wakale, kachiwiri, kukambirana za zomwe zikuchitika panopa, ndichitatu, zokambirana za zomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe zingatheke m'tsogolomu.

Kuzindikira kuti phindu la zochitika zomwe zidapindula m'mbuyomo zimalimbikitsa kumverera kwa kukhala kwathunthu, zokambirana zomwe zikuchitika tsopano zimalola munthu kuyang'ana moyo wake ngati chinthu chamtengo wapatali, ndi kuzindikira zotsatira zake ndi kufufuza mwayi watsopano kumachulukitsa kumverera kwa ufulu wosankha.

Utumiki wapadera

Mafunso ofunikira ndi mwayi, pogwiritsira ntchito zomwe munthu akumvetsa zomwe akuyesera kuti achite m'moyo wake, zomwe amadziletsa komanso momwe akugonjetsa. Ntchito ya psychotherapist imakhala ikukwaniritsidwa pamene kasitomala mwiniwake adzamva kupindula kwa ntchitoyi pamene, pakukonzekera kwakukulu kwa moyo wake, adzapeza mwayi watsopano wogwirizanitsa ndi dziko lozungulira iye, ndipo pokhala ndi mfundo zake zokha, adzapeza kudzoza.