Makani. Kuthetsa banja ndi anzake?

Mu moyo, pali zambiri zochitika komwe okondedwa anu kapena anzanu akangana. Pa dzanja limodzi, bwino ndi zambiri anzeru osati kulowerera anthu ena. Ndi pa zina - iwo kanthu, ngati makani ichi, mwanjira ina, zimakhudza inu? N'zovuta kwambiri kukhala chikhalidwe cha kukangana. Koma kukhala kumangosokoneza mgwirizano, aponso, izo si kophweka: muyenera kukhala tcheru kwambiri ndi kusamala, chifukwa ngati chinachake chikangolakwika, inu pachiswe kuti kukulitsa kukangana kapena ngakhale chotonzedwa kwa anthu amene akuyesetsa kuti akayanjanitse. Komabe, pali malamulo yosavuta kuthana ndi utumiki wa chiyanjanitso.

Kulamulira chiwerengero 1. Musanayambe alowerere kukangana,, fufuzani ngati iwo akufunira okha maphwando kuti mkangano. Funsani aliyense wa iwo ngati mungathe kuwathandiza kulongosola zinthu ndi kuyesa kuwayanjanitsa iwo. Koma Mulimonsemo chiyani kupewa kuuza thandizo lawo ndipo musakhale kukwiya ngati anthu anakana. Kumbukirani, ziri zonse zomwezo.

Rule nambala 2. Musamuwuze kuyanjanitsa anthu yomweyo pambuyo altercation lapansi. Pamene akadali Povunduka maganizo ndi resentments kwambiri mwatsopano ndi amphamvu, leka kumphemba nkhani mtendere, mwinamwake kugwa m'manja otentha. Anthu kuti mtima ukhale pansi ndipo adzachira. Pamene fumbi zikukhazikitsa, kudzakhala kosavuta kuti sitepe kwa chiyanjanitso.

Rule nambala 3. Ambiri mwina, aliyense wa mfundo adani adzafunafuna kukopa ku mbali yawo, musati mu msampha umenewu - kulowerera ndale. mikangano zimachitika chifukwa miscommunication, choncho n'kofunika kuyang'ana pa zinthu kuchokera kunja. Choncho mudzakhala losavuta kumvetsa chifukwa cha matenda ndi kuthandiza kukambirana kukangana.

Rule chiwerengero 4. Anthu amene mumawakonda amafunika kudziwa kuti ndinu munthu wachinyengo ndi simumasewera ndi munthu chinthu chimodzi ndiyeno inu mukhoza kuwaweruza mwachilungamo. Musati mundiuze aliyense wa ophunzira kuti iye anali kulondola, chifukwa kukangana, ali nawo mlandu pa gulu lililonse.

Kulamulira chiwerengero 5. ndondomeko ya chiyanjanitso, mukhoza kuphunzira zambiri za zipani chowawa nkhondo, zikhoza kukhala ngati nkhambakamwa za zolinga za zochita, ngakhale zinsinsi munthu. Chisakhale kukhulupirira mfundo imeneyi, onetsetsani kuti malankhulidwe anu, ngati wina wa mkangano adziwe chinachake owonjezera za mkangano wina linakhala chinachita ndi chikugwirani inu mwachindunji.

Rule nambala 6. Kodi si n'kumatinyengerera anakangana Leka mpaka nkhondo, ndi kuti ayerekeze kuti palibe chinachitika. Ingokwezani a ku Korea nditha kumvetsa zoti achite, kuti mkangano sizidzachitika kachiwiri.

Rule nambala 7. anakangana pa gawo la amakana kukambirana? Ndi ufulu wawo. Mwina sali okonzeka, ndipo mwina kupweteka kwambiri. Inu basi kuvomereza izo.

Kumbukirani malamulo amenewa ndipo mudzatha kuyanjanitsa okondedwa awo. Mukudziwa amakumbukirabe kuthamangitsa chokhumudwitsa ndipo n'kosavuta kuyanjana ndi munthu, pamene inu mukumvetsa chifukwa iye anachita izo.