Malingaliro osavuta ochepa kwa atsikana, momwe angakhalire pa tsiku loyamba

Kotero, iwe unatha kukopa chidwi cha munthu wabwino ndi wowoneka ngati wokondweretsa muzonse, ndipo iye (hurray!) Anakuitanani inu pa tsiku? Zoopsa! Tsopano muli ndi mwayi wawukulu wolimbitsa zotsatirazo ndikusunga madzulo osakumbukira kuti malo anu akhale olimba kwambiri. Mmene mungakhalire pa tsiku loyamba, kuti lisakhale loyamba?

Ulamulilo wa tsiku loyamba ndi nambala imodzi: chitani mwachibadwa ndipo musakhale wamanjenje, lankhulani mofanana ndi inu, mwinamwake mumakhala zovuta kuti muwone ngati wochita masewero olimbitsa thupi pamene mukuwonetsa kuti simukugwira bwino ntchito. Pambuyo pake, kwa nthawi yaitali simudzatha kusewera, chikhalidwe chidzatenga nthawi yake, ndipo munthu adzakhumudwa ndikuganiza kuti ananyengedwa ndi chipongwe. Tangoganizani kuti ili silo tsiku lanu loyamba, koma lachisanu kapena lachisanu ndi chimodzi, pamene anthu akhala akugwiritsidwa ntchito pang'ono.

Ngati simukudziwa momwe mungakhalire pa tsiku loyamba, khalani osangalala ndipo yesetsani kusangalala ndi zokambiranazo, khalani osangalala. Mfundo yakuti muli ndi nkhawa ndi yachilendo, choncho nthawi zambiri imakhalapo pachiyambi cha ubale weniweni. Pambuyo ponse, ine ndikufuna kuti ndidzawonekere pamaso pa mwamuna mu ulemerero wake wonse, kuti ndiwonetse ndekha kuchokera ku mbali yabwino. Choncho, musadzivutitse nokha usiku woti usanagone usiku, pakuti m'mawa mudzapeza pansi pa maso anu osakhala okongola mdima. Ngati simukufuna kuwoneka ngati raccoon pang'ono pamsonkhano, khalani ndi tulo tosangalatsa, ndipo simudzasungunuka galasi la vinyo ndi mthunzi wanjenjemera. Pumulani, chifukwa inu mwatha kale kuzilemba izo mwinamwake, popeza iye wakuitanani. Onetsani makhalidwe abwino a akazi, ngakhale omwe mumakhalapo mu buku lokhalo lokonda chikondi: kuwombera maso, kusonyeza chifundo, kumusangalatsa, kukhala wodzitama komanso wodzidalira.

Musadabwe ndi momwe mungakhalire pa tsiku loyamba ndi mwamuna. Ingoganizirani zovuta zokhazokha. Zoonadi mwamvapo mamiliyoni ambiri kuti kumwetulira ndiko kukongoletsera kwa mtsikana, choncho chithunzi cha msungwana wachimwemwe ndi wokondwa tsopano chilandiridwa bwino, ngakhale ngati mulibe choipa chilichonse. Musamuuze munthuyo za mavuto anu, mwinamwake iye adzasankha kuti mukufuna kumupachika (nthawi zonse). Komanso, pewani kutemberera mchere chifukwa chosayika shuga mu tiyi, ndipo musakhale ndi mgodi wa acidic, mwakhala mukuyembekezera msonkhanowu kwa nthawi yayitali! Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kukondweretsedwa ndi inu, ayenera kukhala wodalitsika kukhala pafupi ndi inu, ndiyeno adzalakalaka kukuwonani mobwerezabwereza.

Mmene mungakhalire pa tsiku loyamba logonjetsa munthu? Kukambirana kuyenera kukhala pa nkhani zopanda ndale. Musati muzidziponyera nokha. Lankhulani za ntchito, kuphunzira, zofuna. Kuzizira kwambiri, ngati mumapezako zoledzeretsa zomwezo kapena mungasangalatse nokha. Izi zikhoza kukhala mwayi wapadera wokumana kachiwiri. Koma popanda chifukwa, musayambe mutu wa zolemba zanu zopanda phindu, komanso mbiri ya moyo wanu wa kugonana kapena zomwe, mpaka pano, kwa iye, pakali pano, palibe bizinesi. Pambuyo pa tsiku amakumbukira inu kokha ngati msungwana wokondwa, wokondweretsa, osati osati beech.

Mmene mungakhalire pa tsiku loyamba kuti musakhumudwitse mnzanuyo? Lolani munthu amene akukuitanani amve choncho. Muloleni iye akusamalireni inu, atsegulireni chitseko kwa inu, perekani dzanja, kukankhira mpando, ndi zina zotero. Ngati akuwona mwa iwe mkazi, khalani ndi makhalidwe abwino, ngakhale ngati simukuzoloŵera chiwonetsero chotere. Ndipotu, ndani amadziwa, mwamsanga mungayambe kuzizoloŵera, ndipo mungakonde. Sonyezani chidwi chenicheni kwa wokwera pamsewu, ngakhale atakuuzani za masewera otsiriza a mpira kapena za kutha kwa galimoto yake. Ngati mukufuna munthu uyu, mvetserani ndipo, ngati n'kotheka, osamadzipangitsa (koma moona mtima!) Kuti mumvetse zomwe akunena. Ndipo simungathe ngakhale kudzionetsera, koma kuvomereza moona mtima kuti simunamvetsetse kalikonse, ndikumupempha kuti afotokoze. Iye anasangalala nazo. Ngati akukuuzani za zinthu zina zomwe mukuchita, mutamandeni, funsani malangizo, ngati kuli kofunikira. Kawirikawiri, amudziwe kuti ndiwe cholengedwa chofooka, chosakhwima ndi chophwanyika, ndipo umangoteteza, kuyamikira ndi kuyamikira. Koma musayiwale kuti ndinu mulungu wamkazi, ndipo mtima wa azimayi awiriwo uyenera kugonjetsedwa. Ndipo momwe mumaperekera munthu nthawi ino, ndithudi, ziri kwa inu.

Tsopano mukudziwa momwe mungakhalire pa tsiku loyamba. Tikuyembekeza kuti nsonga zochepa izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mukwaniritse zomwe mukugwirizanazo, ndipo kukumana ndi munthu wokondweretsedwayo kungakhale koopsa.