Mumayendera - ndi ... Mfundo udindo. General zamaganizo

Kudalira maganizo a anthu kumalepheretsa moyo wonse ndi zokongola. Ndi chodziwikiratu kuti munthu mukufuna, ngati akunja adzakhala ulembedwe naye chochita, anasankha kuti atenge kuvala zimene kudya, momwe kuyang'ana, ndi zina zotero. Koma kodi kuti sitingathe kuthandiza tsiku akugonjera ufulu wa kusankha kuopsa kokhala khosi. Kodi munthu nkutheka kukhala zonse kunachitika ufulu ndipo popanda kuphwanya ufulu ndi ufulu wa ena?

Pali mfundo "mumayendera" mu maganizo, ndi molondola kwambiri limafotokoza khalidwe olondola a munthu wamkulu, munthu wodzidalira. Tiyeni tiyambe ndi choona kuti mumayendera - kalembedwe khalidwe khalidwe khalidwe limene limathandiza munthu mwaukali kuteteza malire Pawokha ake ndi kuteteza zolinga zawo ndi zinthu, pamene salolera ndi kulemekeza mdani wa. ndi zizindikiro ndi khalidwe yodziwika ndi anthu ochangamuka chiyani?

kusowa olusa

Choyamba, munthu ndi mikhalidwe mtima, sangosonyeza mokwiya.
Nkofunika kudziwa kuti ntchito ndipo amaona - osiyana zinthu. Pali anthu amene angathe kulamulira maganizo awo bwino, kotero kuti iwo zosaoneka kunja. Koma mawu kunja kwa nkhope si kunena kuti mtima wa munthu alibe yamkuntho. Ochangamuka munthu onse kunja ndi mkati adzakhala womasuka.

Mokwanira maganizo kudzikonda ndi ena

Mkhalidwe umenewu kumasonyezanso pamaso pa munthu mumayendera. Pamene chikhulupiriro, munthu sanali aukali kuyankha provocations osiyanasiyana pa mbali ya ena, zilibe zoika amafuna pazipita kwa mdani, kapena achotsa mlandu chifukwa kucheza zosasangalatsa ndi kumuuza za izo. Pamodzi ndi maganizo oterowo kuti interlocutor, munthu yekha ndi udindo wake kukambirana nkhawa mokwanira - Mulimonsemo, satenga udindo wonse kwa mphindi zoipa, ndipo silichotsera yokha kwathunthu.

kuzindikira nthaŵi zonse Khalidwe

Mu mbali iyi monga kukhazikitsidwa ndi kuzindikira zolakwa ndi kusowa kwa nkhondo. Mumayendera - ndi ziyenera olondola a munthu zake. Apa chinthu chachikulu - kumvetsa nthawi imene ndi mphamvu zochita zawo. Choncho, munthu wamakani angathe kukana dongosolo anaima, ngakhale izo kusokoneza maganizo ndi ena.

Nkhondo kapena mumayendera?

Mumayendera mu kuwerenga maganizo ndi kuwamva monga pakalibe nkhondo zina. Inu athanso kuwauza kuti sizichitika pokhapokha pali nkhondo, ndiye palibe kuziteteza maganizo ake. Mwatsoka, anthu ambiri amaganiza choncho - zofuna zawo ndi ufulu akhoza siidzasamalidwa yekha ndi nkhondo. Ndiye muyenera kunena kuti mfundo "nkhondo". Izi lakuthwa ndi maganizo nkhondo, ndi zipolowe zinthu otsutsana, zolinga ndi maganizo. Mu tanthauzo limeneli, nkofunika kuona kuti kugunda, wotchedwa nkhondo, nthawi zonse m'maganizo, affective ndi pachimake. Makhalidwe atatu amenewa kotheratu ndi mbali zofunika zimene mumayendera - kuzindikira khalidwe ofuna kupanda ziyenera mokwanira za gulu kulankhulana ndi vuto wonse. Tikhoza kunena kuti munthu wamakani mumakhalira bola ngati simunafike nawo mu nkhondoyo. Mwachibadwa, khalidwe pamwamba ena amaperekedwa ndi vuto lalikulu, payenera kukhala pano si udindo, komanso angamulerere moyenera mwana.

Mumayendera - nthawi ndi kutha kunena kuti "ayi"

Nthawi zambiri ife tiona zinthu zimenezi, pamene muyenera kuuza munthu "ayi", koma ife sitingakhoze kuchita izo pa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana, ndiyeno iwo akudwala izo. Kuti mudziwe kulemekeza okha, makhalidwe awo, kuteteza zofuna zake, ndikofunika kudziwa pamene kusiya chilichonse. Mumayendera - ndi kutha kunena kuti "ayi." Mwachitsanzo, vuto: inu mwaima mu basi zonse ndi thumba mu dzanja limodzi, dzanja limodzi litagwira handrail lapansi. Kondakitala kuchokera kumalekezero a basi akakupempha kutumiza ndalama okwera kuyenda kumalekezero ena. Muli ndi ufulu osati kusamutsa ndalama woyamba, chifukwa manja ake amakhala otanganidwa akhoza kugwa, ndipo kachiwiri, sangafune kuti manja anu moipa ndalama wina pa nayenso. Ngati imeneyi amakana kuteteza ufulu wawo, mudzakhala zoipa Apaulendo ndi wochititsa, koma kudutsa ndalama, inu sudzasiyidwa ndi kumverera wosakhutira ndi zofuna linaphwanya. Kodi kuchita? Mwaganiza!

Malamulo kunena kuti "ayi"

1. Choyamba, muyenera kukhala achidule. Mukayamba kufotokoza chifukwa mwatsatanetsatane, zidzakhala ngati chowiringula.
2. Nkofunika kulemekeza chipani ena. Mukhoza kutamanda kapena kuthandiza popanda ali ndi chimtolo cha kulakwa anthu.
3. Nthawi zina inu muyenera kunena "ayi." Ndife zambiri mantha mawu, ndipo ndinkaganiza kuti anataya mtima ndi mwamuna. Koma motsimikiza kuti "ayi" Ndi bwino kwambiri ndi bwino kuposa languid "sindikudziwa."
4. Inu kukhala woonamtima. Muli ndi ufulu kugamula kulikonse, chifukwa inu tikungotaya nthawi yanu. Musaphwanye kudziikira kumbuyo.
5. Kuuma. Ngati inu muli Loti interlocutor, ndipo amafuna kukopa yankho lake vuto, muyenera kubwereza mwamphamvu "ayi" kangapo.
6. Pakalibe kupalamula. Sikuti kuti ndinu wovuta kapena kodi bondo kukana kwanu. Ngati simungathe kulera mtanda, chifukwa kupepesa kwa iye? Ndipo kuchokera vzvalennoy udindo.
7. Dzisamalire. Choyamba, muyenera kuganizira za chikhalidwe chake cha maganizo ndi chauzimu. Ngati inu mukuti "inde" - zikutanthauza kufafaniza zolinga zawo ndi zinthu, m'pofunika kuti atenge malo zosiyana. Si nsembe. Inde, nthawi zina chifukwa cha okondedwa awo, ife nsembe chinthu chofunika okha. Apa pakubwera Amaonetsa funso zofunika, udindo.

Kodi izo - neassertivny munthu?

Kuika patsogolo mu khalidwe lawo mfundo za udindo, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti pali mbali ina kuti ndalama - khalidwe neassertivnoe. kudalira kwambiri pa ena - Ikhoza monga softness kwambiri, mwina ulesi, kuvomereza anafotokoza. Taganizirani zimene zinachitikira khalidwe angayambe:

- Mwamuna akatenga malo kungochita kukambirana mu gulu la anthu;

- timatha kupanga zosankha iye;

- pali abdication mpaka kalekale udindo ndi zifukwa zooneka ngati zabwino;

- mantha kuti muyambe ubale wabwino chifukwa sindikufuna kucheza khama

- akuwonetseredwa kudziyang'anira - wodwala adachira wofooka kwambiri kuposa ena;

- kupewa chidwi cha anthu ena;

- akuchedwa khalidwe zochokera kupeŵa mavuto komanso udindo;

- zikuoneka akugwirizana ndi zina, osati kutenga nkhani zakukhosi kwawo zofuna;

- mantha mavuto ena, ndi kudziletsa zoipa.

Munthu khalidwe mu mtima wanga adzazunzidwa kwambiri, monga posankha zambiri limatsutsa zolinga mkati. moyo wake akuyamba otchedwa mkombero negative. Kodi zikutanthauza chiyani? Neassertivny Munthu amalandira kunyozera kwambiri anthu, zikuyamba kuchokera mwa icho chokha "kudya", ozunzidwa ndi kukayikira mphamvu, khalidwe lawo, moyo, yafupika udindo okha. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, zikuoneka kuti aleke yekha, anayamba moyo wachiphamaso: pa dzanja limodzi, ali kwambiri ndi zilakolako ndi zinthu, pa dzanja lina, iye sakhudzidwa iwo ndi kuteteza. Zonsezi zingachititse kuti ubale zobwera ndi anthu, kusowa kwa ubwenzi weniweni. Mumayendera - ndi anzake ogwira a anthu popanda kutineneza ndi kungolota.

Kodi kudziwa ngati munthu wamakani?

Vuto la kuphunzira azidzidalira Mokhumbira, amachita zimene mumayendera gawo ndi sayansi ya moyo - ambiri kuwerenga maganizo. Kudziwa khalidwe la chikhalidwe, mukhoza mayeso pang'ono mumayendera, kufunsa katswiri kapena kusunga khalidwe lawo tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwa njira, mu sayansi maganizo chidwi kapena kudzipenda (kudzipenda) ndi zofunika kwambiri, chifukwa kupanga kwambiri kuchuluka kwa mfundo za malo kuyang'aniridwa. Choncho, n'kofunika kukhala ndi njira yolongosoka, ngati inu kunena kuti "ayi" Zikuoneka ngati muli wolusa ku mbali ina ngati zimakuvuta kuteteza ufulu wawo mwamtendere, popanda nkhondo, ndi zina zotero. Njira yabwino kuziona ndekha kuchokera kunja ndi maganizo a wokondedwa za khalidwe lanu.

Kodi n'chiyani chimene chimatithandiza mfundo za udindo chifukwa cha khalidwe?

Pakuti kutukula wa munthu nkofunika kuti munthu wamakani. Ndipotu, ngakhale kuti tili ndi chikhalidwe chibadidwe kapena Mulungu, makolo awo, tiyenera moyo wonse, kukwaniritsa bwino ndi kuvomereza kugonjetsedwa popanda mlandu kapena popangidwa ndi kusadzidalira. Timvere mfundo za makhalidwe wamakani, ife kukwaniritsa zolinga, kufika pamwamba ndipo ndi ogwira ubale lotha.