Single banja Makolo

Malinga ndi ziwerengero za kuwiri mphamvu dziko (Russia ndi United States), pafupifupi 30% ya ana ndi ndaleredwa mu zaka zapitazi, mabanja a kholo limodzi. Chifukwa cha ichi chimakhala chilekano (kulekana) makolo, kupanda koyamba kwa banja (kubadwa kunja kwa chikwati), imfa ya mayi kapena bambo. Chosakwanira banja, ndithudi, si chiweruzo. Ngati makolo a mwana komanso akhoza kukula akule bwino ndi maganizo oyenera ndi mabuku. Koma osati nthawi zonse. Zolakwika akadali zimachitika. Ndipo nthawi zokwanira.

Pofuna anakulira wokha, popanda chiyambi ndi chitukuko cha phobias zosiyanasiyana, muyenera banja limene tcheru ilipiridwa mwana kumbali wamkazi (kholo) ndi mwamuna (bambo) - banja wathunthu.

Psychology anafotokoza chitukuko neurotic, matenda khalidwe ndi patoharakterologicheskie makamaka chosowa banja wathunthu wa mwana. banja kholo kumaonekera anyamata chisanadze sukulu mu moodiness ndi chipwirikiti, causeless Kuuma ndi ngakhale nkhupakupa; Atsikana nthawi zambiri amapezeka chibwibwi. Mantha pa zaka sukulu Sikuti ayi, koma m'malo kumawonjezera. Ndipo matenda khalidwe ndi yapadera kwambiri. Ichi ndi chifukwa mantha kuwonongeka amayi, makolo yosagwirizana osati ukwati, koma nthawi yaitali pambuyo pake. Komanso, ana n'kofunika kwambiri chokwanira chitsanzo kudziwitsa mwamuna kapena mkazi amene amathandiza banja chosakwanira sindingakhoze.

The E olekanitsa ndi amangoona mbali yaikazi (amayi) sasangalala zina, amaika softness mwamuna wake ndi wake "kulephera moyo" pamene ena - kwambiri wodzikonda ndi okhwima mawu a ulamuliro. Ang'onoang'ono mbali, oddly mokwanira, masewero makolo ngakhale uchidakwa.

A chifukwa wamba osaneneka gwero lachisokonezo anyamata - sitili pa chikoka bambo ake, ndipo zikutanthauza wa maganizo Kuyankha mayi. Nthawi zambiri komanso chifukwa cha lotha, osati kale nkosaloledwa mayi nkhondo ndi makolo ake. Mayi momwe kumabweretsa ubale izi pa ana, kukhala kwa iwo gwero lina la kungasokoneze maganizo.

Nthawi zina pali "musanaganizire redirection" zoipa mayi pa mwana wake pamene amalimako kwambiri ngati bambo wake. Makamaka ngati tinatengera osati maonekedwe, "inu muli opusa," "Inunso sangachite chilichonse", etc. M'mawu ena, mayi amapereka unsembe zina pa wotsika chomwecho mwana wanu. Chifukwa cha - kusadalira, manyazi, kapena M'malo mwake, amakhala olusa komanso kusowa ulamuliro.

Mu mabanja a kholo limodzi pamene mayi ali chinkhoswe mu maphunziro, ubale ndi ana ake nkhondo kuposa ndi ana awo aakazi.

The mabanja, mayi zambiri akubwerera kunyumba kwa makolo ake. Mwachibadwa, kuthandiza mwana wamkazi, akukumana udali zakale mwana mu. Ndipo si nthawi zonse n'komwe, kulenga zina zoyipa pa psyche, ndi kukakamiza mwana poyera kufotokoza chidani ndi recriminations mdzukulu m'chifanizo cha atate wake, kuwonjezera zinachitikira mwana.

Nthawi zina amayi pochitika tonde kwa madokotala, madokotala, aphunzitsi ndi magulu ophunzitsa usiku wa kindergartens ndi sukulu yogonera komweko. Ngati ana atsala kukhala ndi mayi ake, kuzisamalira yokhala amasiyana pang'ono poyerekeza ndi kusamalira ana mu mabanja awiri kholo, koma kusiyana mphamvu za - wofunikira. Atsikana ali ndi zoletsa ochepa kusiyana ndi anyamata. Ndi kuthamanga pa iwo ndi zochepa kwambiri. amazilamulira wosamalitsa poyerekezera ndi ana chifukwa chikhumbo Chokani buku lothekera la makhalidwe bambo ake. Choncho mlandu, ndiponso kumuopseza kumenya poyerekezera ndi anyamata zambiri applicable. Ndipo, Tikawonetsetsa ndekha ndi mwana wake wamkazi, mayi amatanthauza ake mosamala ndi modekha. Mwina chifukwa amaona ngati kutambasuka kwa palokha ndipo, nafuna mwana anapulumutsa kumlingo yekha.

Kulekana kwa makolo amakhudza mtsikana yochititsa chidwi kwambiri ngati womangidwa kwa atate wake kuposa mayi ake. zigawo zotakasika akhoza kukula ndi kuopa kutaya mayi wake, mwachitsanzo kuopa kusungulumwa ndiponso kudzipatula. Pakutayika atate wake, atsikana zambiri kuposa anyamata amaopa kuti apite kudzikonda amayi. Amaopa kuti amayi sanali kamodzi kubwerera, kapena kuti ndi chinthu kuti chichitike. Kuonjezera fearfulness chonse, mantha wamba amene anauka ali aang'ono. Kenako - diagnoses: nkhawa gwero lachisokonezo, osaneneka gwero lachisokonezo. Ndi m'tsogolo - gwero lachisokonezo, obsessive-zinazake matenda: miyambo ya mavuto, malingaliro kulephera, osatetezeka, phobias.

Pa zaka za unyamata kale zikumveka zizindikiro bwino kuvutika-neurotic: maganizo maganizo, maganizo, opanda chiyembekezo, kusakhulupirirana, mwamantha, kusadalira yekha, zokumana nazo chifukwa cha kulephera n'zopanda, stiffness mu chiyanjano ndi anyamata, kusinthasintha mu posankha zochita.

Chosakwanira banja kwenikweni si chiweruzo. Masomphenya mkati ubwenzi ndi mwanayo, lopinda pambuyo azingokhala wa banja, kuti apite maganizo owonjezera ndi chitukuko cha phobias zosiyanasiyana. Musaiwale chinthu chachikulu: mwanayo si mlandu mfundo yakuti si ubale akuluakulu. Mu akholo banja chifundo, thandizo ndi kutengapo mbali ndi zofunika mu malo oyamba a mwana amene tsoka wakhala kuthetsedwa popanda nzeru zake kapena chilolezo ...