Kodi kukopa chikondi, kapena zinsinsi angapo a maganizo abwino

"... Ife, kusankha ife ..." Mau bwino la nyimbo bwino za mmene dziko ndi zina disgarmonichen kangati pa khamu, timamvetsera pa "payekha" ndi mmene kowawa ndipo undekha, podziwa kuti " palibe amene amandikonda. "

Takumana ndi vuto ili, ine ndikuganiza, si munthu mmodzi ndipo palibe kamodzi munafunsa nkhani apakhungu chifukwa ambiri - mmene kukopa chikondi mu moyo wanu, muyenera kuchita chifukwa cha maonekedwe ake?

Kumene, funso yankho lomveka bwino kapena Chinsinsi sangakhale. Ndipo komabe ...

Choyamba muyenera kutchereza - choipa? Kapena palibe malo oyenera, amene amakonda ndi amene angakhoze kumukonda? Kapena iwo amaoneka pa njira ya moyo, koma kungodutsa, patapita kanthawi, kusintha kwa siteshoni ina? Kapena mwinamwake inu mozungulira basi "zikuwanyansa" ndipo atazungulira palibe yemwe amawala kwa inu "poganiza wabwino" waubwenzi, ndiponso kuwathandiza? Yang'anitsitsani ena, kuti zinkachitika kuzungulira mosamalitsa yosanthula kwambiri ndipo mvetserani, kotero kulankhula, mu "nyimbo za danga." Ndipo malingana ndi yankho, kodi mapeto inu anakhala ndi kuvina.

Ngati mukudziwa nokha monga munthu wodzikonda, ndi zofuna kwambiri pa moyo ndi anthu, ngati tione dziko pamwamba ndi mukuganiza muyenera, ngati si onse zambiri - kukopa chikondi chiyambe kugwira ntchito mwakhama eni. Iye kutsimikizira ndekha kuti "Ine" - alidi kalata yotsiriza ya zilembo zimene si pakati pa Dziko Lapansi ndipo kuti muyenera kubwerera m'mbuyo mu zofuna zawo, kukhala kosavuta, wokoma mtima ndi zambiri Muzikhala bwino. Ndipo kotero funso mmene kukopa chikondi, yankho ili: Moyo wanu "Ndiyenera kugwira" usana ndi usiku. Ndiye, nsangala zanu, kudzipereka sikudzagwa padera, anthu kukukondani. Kumbukirani mmene timasangalalira mmalo mwa nkhope ya masika dzuwa, koma alibe moto, koma mtundu, wachifundo, makamaka nkhanza raduyuschemu yaitali yozizira! Kapena manja awiri kukokera chikondi moyo wa moto, monga thupi lonse unkagunda mbaula otentha! N'chifukwa chiyani tikutero? Chifukwa chirichonse ofunda, chabwino, moyo akuyandikira, amadzaza mtendere, mgwirizano, ndi chimwemwe cha moyo. Izi imakhudzanso anthu. Bright, zabwino, wochezeka kukopa, chifukwa amawala mphamvu ya chikondi ndi kukoma mtima. Near bwino, ndipo kuwakonda!

Koma mmene kukopa chikondi ngati simuli wodzikonda, munthu wamba, monga unlucky, Mukuganiza bwanji? Ndiye funso lina - kodi inu mumamva choncho? Iwe wekha, ulemu, kuzindikira wapadera ake, apachiyambi, tanthauzo? Ngati ayi - apa, muzu wa vuto kapena mbali zina za ndalama. Kudzikonda kufumbwa. A kudziletsa deprecation ndizachisoni - ndi kokha. Ndizachisoni, osati chikondi. Ndipo mu nkhani iyi kukopa chikondi cha ena ayenera kuyamba ndi maphunziro wodzilamulira chikondi, kudziletsa kuvomereza, chikhululukiro cha zolakwa zathu, zimene mungathe osati m'chaching'ono wochenjera kapena okongola, monga chiyenera kukhala, osati monga bwino ntchito yake, osati chidwi ndi zozizwitsa. Mulole izo zikhale chomwecho. Koma inu - ndi inu, ndi wina wa umunthu kulibe. Amanena kuti nokha, kumwetulira pa galasi kwambiri chisangalalo ndi kukondwa kumwetulira, kutsindika ubwino wake, analimbikira iwo! Phunzirani kuyang'ana nokha zabwino. Kuyambira ichi chisintha kudzasintha maganizo anu, malingaliro anu, inu ngakhale kuyang'ana wokongola kwambiri, wodzidalira. Udzapeza zimene poyamba waponya m'manja. Muyamba limatulutsa zabwino nyemba mphamvu ya dziko, kodi inu kufuula kuti dziko lonse lapansi - taonani, Ine ndine wabwino kwa ine, wokondedwa wanga, zodabwitsa (ngati ndinu munthu - kutanthauza yekha mu chachimuna). Izo si zobisika kwa ena! Inu adzamvetsera, mudzakhala ndi chidwi. Inu simungakhoze kunyalanyaza, koma ndi mtima chisoni - inde, kukhala zedi! Chifukwa mmene kukopa chikondi ngati si omasukirana ndi kukhulupirira nokha ndi ena?

Ndipo mfundo ina yofunika. Yakuti kulingalira bwino ndi zimene - kukhala adzitengere ulamuliro, kwa kulemekezedwa, wokondedwa kwa anthu ambiri osiyanasiyana, ndi banja lake lothera ndi anzake ntchito kapena odutsa mumsewu. M'pofunika kujambula ndingaliro zosiyanasiyana dongosolo iridescent ndi kuika maganizo awo abwino, zomwe Pankhaniyi ikutuluka inu. Ndipo kawirikawiri maganizo amenewa okha. Kotero ife mukufuna kutumiza kuyitana kwa Chilengedwe - anazungulira ife ndi chikondi, kutumiza magalimoto tsogolo la anthu amene tidzakhala chabwino. Kukhulupirira pa mtima chakuti kotero zimachitika.

Ndipo kwenikweni zimachitika - pang'onopang'ono, ngati chingasinthe maganizo anu mumtima, monga kubadwa kwa anu latsopano "Ine," monga ndi momveka kwambiri lingaliro la momwe kukopa chikondi.