Kuwomboledwa kuchoka kuzinthu zowonongeka pamsewu wopita ku ufulu

Pankhani yokhudzana ndi kudalira, nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi zithunzi za anthu omwe amazitcha kuti mankhwala osokoneza bongo (kumwa mowa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kusuta fodya). Kuphatikiza pa izi, timakhala ndi chidwi chokhudzana ndi makompyuta (masewera, malo ochezera a pa Intaneti) ndi njuga kuledzera.

Komabe, pakadakalibe vutoli, lomwe limasiyana ndi mtundu wina wa kudalira mwazi momwe polojekitiyi ilili anthu osachepera awiri. Ndipo kumasulidwa kuzinthu zowonongeka kungayambitse kuthetsa mavuto ena ambiri, kukhala ntchito ya psychoactive kapena "kukhala" pamalo ochezera a pa Intaneti.

Muyenera kudziwa zomwe mungamenyane nazo

Kuti mudzipulumutse nokha ku chikhulupiliro chogwirizana, muyenera choyamba kumvetsetsa chomwe chiri komanso kuti ndi choopsa bwanji. Pali mndandanda wautali wa makhalidwe a munthu wodalirika, tikulemba ena mwa iwo:

• Munthu wodalira wina amamva bwino pamene ena amavomereza;
• Kukhala ndi mtima wolakwa pa mavuto a ena;
• Kuwopa kukanidwa;
• Amagawira dziko lonse kukhala "lakuda" ndi "loyera";
• Osakondera anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi kuwakhumudwitsa chifukwa sagwirizana ndi zomwe akuyembekezera;
• Sangathe kusiyanitsa maganizo ndi malingaliro ake kuchokera m'malingaliro ndi kumverera kwa ena.

Mndandandawu ukhoza kupitilizidwa, koma zizindikiro zonsezi zikuwonetsera kuwonongeka kwa malire a munthu payekha, mtundu wosaganizira.

Kodi mumachiritsa kapena ayi?

Njira yachipatala imayankha funsoli molakwika, ponena kuti sizingatheke kuthana ndi zochitika za chilengedwe ndi zobadwa zomwe zimakhudzidwa pakupanga khalidwe lodalira.

Komabe, molingana ndi Berry ndi Janey Wainhold, kumasulidwa kuchoka ku chinyengo kumakhala koyamba makamaka kumasulidwa ku mavuto osatha, osathetsedwa kuyambira ali mwana wamng'ono. Munthu aliyense amakhala ndi magawo angapo ofunika panthawi yomwe akukula. Zigawo zonse zomwe zimakhudzana ndi kusintha kwa munthu kuchokera pa siteji imodzi kupita kumzake, ziyenera kukwaniritsidwa m'njira yovomerezeka, pokhapokha pali chiopsezo chokhala ndi makhalidwe oipa.

Mwinamwake, panthawi inayake m'mbiri ya ofuna chithandizo, malire anali atathyoka kapena chochitika chinachitika, kukumbukira ndi kugwira ntchito zomwe zingathandize kuthetsa kumasulidwa. Kuchokera kudalira, timakhala tagawanika ndi masitepe angapo, ndipo nkofunika kukhala osamala kwambiri polera ana.

Chinthu chachikulu ndicho ufulu

M'buku lake "Emancipation kuchokera pa codependence" ndi Berry Wainhold Amatsindika mfundo ya ufulu ngati khalidwe la munthu. Ufulu umatsimikiziranso dziko lina limene silingathe kupindula, pokhapokha pokhapokha kuwonetsa kunja. Komabe, ufulu sutanthauza kutayirira ndi kuvomereza. Choyamba, ndikofunika kumvetsetsa zomwe tikufuna kukhala omasuka.

Kukhazikitsidwa pakati pa kusagwirizana kumaphatikizapo choyamba kuyang'ana kwa maso mkati, kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa khalidwe lathu.

Njira zochira

Kawirikawiri, kumasulidwa ku msampha wa kusamvetsetsa kumachitika m'njira ziwiri:

1. Kuika maganizo pa chinyengo ngati matenda, monga chinthu chachilendo, chomwe mungamenyane nacho.

2. Pokhazikitsa maubwenzi atsopano ndi anthu apamtima.

Koma palinso njira yachitatu yomwe buku lakuti "Kuwomboledwa kuchoka ku codependence" laperekedwa. Njirayi imachokera pambali yakuti kusamalidwa si matenda osachiritsika, koma amatha kuwongolera bwino.

Mphamvu ya munthu paulendo wopita ku ufulu

Ubale wodalirana ndi wina umamupangitsa munthu, chifukwa amachititsa kuti pakhale malire a munthu, kudziperekera yekha ndi kutayika. Ntchito yomwe cholinga chake chikulingalira kuthekera kwa munthu, kudzizindikira yekha, kumabweretsa kulimbitsa malire a munthu.

Pofuna kuthetseratu chikhalidwe chowawa, lero ntchito yothandiza kwambiri ndi pulogalamu 12, yomwe ikuphatikizapo kuphunzira pang'onopang'ono za vuto la maubwenzi ogwirizana. Pakugwira ntchito pa pulojekitiyi, munthu amaphunzira kutenga udindo pa moyo wake ndipo, motero, amakhala munthu wamkulu kwambiri.

Kudalira kwadzinso ndi anthu

Komabe, kumasulidwa kuchoka kudalira kumakhala kovuta ndi kuti masiku ano anthu alibe chidwi ndi chitukuko cha munthu. Mgwirizano, mzimu wa timu ndi wabwino. Koma, kumbali ina, gulu lomwe linamangidwa pazinthu zowonongeka ndi zotsatira za ziweto, kusokoneza malire a inu nokha, kusowa kwa malingaliro anu, ndi chifukwa chake, kuwonetsa ku mphamvu ya malingaliro a wina.

Komabe, munthu ndi munthu wokhala pakati pa anthu ndipo sangathe kukhala moyo ndi ena. Polimbana ndi kumasulidwa ku kudalira ena, anthu ena angapereke chithandizo ndi thandizo lofunika kwambiri. Makamaka, kuchotsa kugwirizana kwa anthu okwatirana kumakhala mofulumira, mofulumira komanso mopweteka, ngati kuchitidwa mwamsanga kwa onse okwatirana. Kuyendera magulu osiyanasiyana othandizira kungathandizenso njira yochizira kudzera mwa mphamvu ya anthu ena omwe ali ndi mavuto omwewo. Ndipo, potsiriza, kuwerenga mabuku olimbikitsa okhudza kumasulidwa bwino adzakupatsani zofunikira zofunika kuti musinthe.

Kuteteza kwa Codependency

Chinthu chosavuta chomwe tingachite kuti titeteze mwana wathu ku chiyanjano chodalira mtsogolo ndi kukhala ndi chiyanjano cholimba ndi iye kuyambira ali mwana, koma panthawi yomweyi kulemekeza malire ake. Izi ndizofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti mwana ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi ufulu wokhala ndi maganizo ndi malingaliro. Pamene timaletsa munthu wina kawirikawiri kuposa momwe timaloleza, amatha kudzikhulupirira yekha ndi kudalira kokha kwa wina, "lingaliro" labwino.