Ndizosowa Kutsutsana: malamulo a khalidwe pankhondo

Tonsene ife ndife osiyana. Aliyense ali zokonda zawo, zinthu, mfundo ndi malamulo a makhalidwe abwino, amene munthu chimatsatira. Choncho n'zosadabwitsa kuti nthawi zina anthu akhoza kupeza chinenero, ndi chifukwa cha kusowa kwa kumvetsa mukakhala mikangano. Iwo ali gulu osiyana, koma malamulo a makhalidwe pa mikangano ndi chilengedwe, ogwira Mulimonsemo.

Kodi mkangano?

Mu nkhondo zimatanthawuza kuti vuto limene awiri kapena zinanso maphwando, omwe amakhala pamalo ake kuti ndi yosemphana ndi zofuna za ena.

Mikangano wapatsidwa zosagwirizana zofuna za anthu kapena magulu. Ndipo aliyense ali ndi mfundo zabwino ndi zoipa. Kuti ndi zaphindu ndi zowononga ntchito za nkhondo. Ndipo malamulo a khalidwe mu Kukolanaku kudziwa khalidwe kuvala makani.

gawo la mkangano

Lililonse kusagwirizana tichipeza magawo atatu akulu akulu:

1. Kuzindikira. Maphwando nkhondo ndi kuzindikira kuti kuteteza malo osiyana. Communication limakhala khalidwe ochititsa kuti, anthu anayamba kukangana chifukwa maganizo awo.
2. Njira. maphwando amadziwa kuti sangapeze pangano pa nkhani inayake. Njira ndi malamulo a khalidwe Pankhondoyi yomweyo kupulumutsa monga njira angathere kuti vutolo. Aliyense chilli kusankha njira yabwino kwa iye.
3. Action. Maphwando nkhondo ndi kusankha modes wa ntchito. Aliyense wa iwo zimadalira cholinga chomaliza cha ophunzira a. Mwachitsanzo, mabungwe ena angayese kufika kukondera kapena kukhala munthu "ndi wake." Mbali imeneyi akuti ndi nkhondo yomalizirayo.

Kodi mungatani kuti zinthu nkhondo?

Malamulo zoyambirira za khalidwe pankhondo zigwirizana njira zisanu khalidwe:

1. Kusintha. Malinga ndi njira imeneyi, mbali imodzi ya tasiya makani zoti pansi pa ena. Kuti ndi munthu ngakhale ali ndi maganizo osiyana pa nkhani inayake, koma sananene kuti kuopa akhaipisa asapita kapena kuti sanamvetsedwe.
2. Kupewedwa. Mwina, mwa mndandanda wonse, muli malamulo a khalidwe Pankhondoyi - ndi njira ambiri. Ophunzira kusamvana kupita ku Kukolanaku, kulola zinthu kutenga zochita zawo, kapena n'kumaganiza kuti chilichonse chomwe chinachitika.
3. Kupeza kukondera. Osanyengelera - njira kuti alandiridwa mbali zonse, monga adzakhala kumlingo kukumana zofuna zawo.
4. Kupikisana. Anthu a nkhondo amatenga mbali mwakhama ndi ayeserere maganizo ake a kutsidya lina, otsutsana maganizo wina.
5. Kugwirizana. Ndi njira, maphwando kupeza njira zimene zingakuthandizeni kukwaniritsa a mbali zonse. Mwachitsanzo, kukwaniritsa zolinga mmodzi wa ophunzira spats kuthandiza ena kuzindikira maloto awo, kotero iye amathandizanso mdani wa.

Malamulo zosemphana: malangizo a zamaganizo

Ngakhale kuti kasamalidwe nkhondo - kudziletsa, amene amafufuza otchedwa zinthu pa mlingo sayansi, mu chitukuko ya nkhondoyo aliyense inadzachitika chinthu anthu. Choncho, malamulo zosemphana nthawi zambiri mwakuchita zamaganizo amene ali ndi udindo - kutenga zimenezo. Ayamikira anapanga ali motere:

• mwayi A kulankhula. kusamvana kwambiri otani zifukwa ziwiri - anthu kwambiri yomangika ndipo Adazunzidwa kumvera ena, kapena kufotokoza maganizo awo. Mulimonsemo, kuti athetse vutoli, muyenera kulankhula, kuwomba kuchokera nthunzi, kumvetsera mbali zina ndi kusonyeza malo ake.
• N'chongoletsa mokwiya. Aliyense amafuna ndi maganizo ake ankatengedwa, ndipo ngati izi sizichitika, ambiri ayamba amakwiya ndi sakumvetsa. Zikuoneka kuti mdani wanu amayamba kudziwonetsa mokwiya. Pankhaniyi m'pofunika kuti atsitse kuukira sagwirizana nazo ndi zosayembekezereka njira. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kufunsa za chinachake chimene sizikuwakhudza phunziro la mkangano. Ndipo inu mukhoza kupempha malangizo - momwe, mu maganizo ake, n'zotheka kuthetsa Kukolanaku. Chinthu chachikulu - kusinthana chidwi maganizo abwino.
• No "reciprocity". Malamulo zosemphana zambiri kunena kuti sitingathe kuyankha kuti mokwiya mwaukali. Ndi bwino kufunsa mdani wanu ndikuuzeni chimene akufuna pa mapeto. Chinthu chachikulu - chotsatira, koma anthu ambiri anaona vuto, fixated maganizo awo pankhani izo.
• Ulemu. Sitingathe kunena kuti mdani wanu akuchita zolakwika. Bwino kunena zakukhosi kwawo. Mwachitsanzo, mopupuluma, "Inu adampereka ine!" - m'malo mwa kudabwa: "Ndikuona kuti ine, pakupereka." Osati kuti mukunyoza mdani ndi kunyalanyaza mawu ake.
• Popanda umboni. Mkangano sapezekapezeka chinachake kutsimikizira. Ndi bwino kuti amvere mawu Komabe, kufunsa mafunso ophweka za malo ake. Ndi okondedwa ayenera kukhala pa maziko ofanana, kulankhula modekha molimba mtima, ndiye mdani adzakhala kudzilimbitsa mokwiya wake.
• Apology. Njira yabwino ulesi mdani mpweya - kupepesa. Koma izi pokhapokha ngati mphamvu ya kupalamula ndi kuzindikira pano zawo.
• Pitirizani chibwenzicho. Kaya mkangano zithetsedwe, ndi bwino kunena mosabisa kuti vuto anachititsa anachita zoipa, ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani. Courtesy ndi kuona mtima - ndi Gawo kuti athetse mikangano. Ndi bwino kuposa kutineneza, amene kenako kuyambitsa kusokoneza mgwirizano wa.

Kodi zolakwa chiyani anthu kupewa mikangano

Nthawi zambiri, anthu nkhondo zochokera maganizo awo osati bwino. Choncho zovuta kupeza njira yabwino yothetsera mbali zonse. Ambiri kulakwitsa ndi kuti anthu odzikonda ndi kumachita mchikakamizo cha mtima. Iye sakufuna kuti athetse vutoli, ndi kuteteza yekha maganizo awo, chifukwa cha zomwe n'kovuta kupeza kukondera. Membala wa mkangano sakufuna kuganizira kuti pali njira zambiri kuthetsa, koma amachita kokha mwa malamulo anakhazikitsa kapena miyambo. Zimachitika kuti munthuyo, mfundo sakufuna kuthetsa vuto - kapena akugwirizana onse, kapena kugwiritsa mutu wina, kunyalanyaza zinthu zofunika.

Nkhondo - ndizabwino

Anthu ali ndi maganizo osiyana mikangano. Anthu ena safuna kulowerera maganizo anu nokha, ndipo wina alibe chakudya iwo mkate, wofu- kuti mkangano ndi kutsimikizira mfundo zawo. Koma aliyense nkhondo ndi njira yake ndi moyo - ndi mwayi kukula pa zina, kukwaniritsa kawiri kuposa kotheka kale. Choncho, pali malamulo a khalidwe mu nkhondo, kuti aliyense anali ndi mwayi constructively kuteteza n'zofunika.