Mitundu ya chikondi ndi makhalidwe awo mwachidule nzeru za Agiriki

Nthawi zonse kwa anthu onse akukondana ankaona wabwino kopambana, ofunika yosatheka kumverera, amene angathe kuchidziwa bwinobwino mwamuna ndi kumupatsa yamtendere chopanda malire, kapena wakuda opanda, mdima ndi mavuto. Munthu aliyense mu zochitika tinganene ndipo akukhulupirira kuti pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chikondi.

Koma chikondi si chomwecho. Izo zikhoza kuonekera m'njira zosiyana, ndipo munthu aliyense amabweretsa tanthauzo lawo la chikondi, zimene zimachitikadi. Palibe kwenikweni sindingakhoze kunena chimene kwenikweni chifukwa, koma pali zambiri nthano, nthano ngakhale Mfundo nthanthi kuyesera mwanjira kumufotokozera za kumverera uku. Izo ziri chimodzimodzi zomwe anaonekera zosiyanasiyana gulu, chimene losiyanasiyana chikondi.

Mmene zimenezi, Greek nzeru ndi nthano ndi chidwi mbali kuphunzira. Mwachitsanzo, pali zitatu mitundu ya chikondi pakati pa Agiriki.

Chidwi kwambiri awa ndi Eros. chikondi chimenechi amapereka chilakolako champhamvu, chizolowezi. Okonda amakonda kuphatikiza kwathunthu ndi munthu ali mu kuthupi.

Ludus imatengedwa kuti ndi maonekedwe osiyana kwambiri ndi chikondi. Mtundu uwu wa masewera ndi munthu, mmene muli chilakolako, chilakolako, koma malingaliro ndi kungotengeka ndithu. zoterezi zimandisangalatsa, kuiwala zowawa, nsanje ndi kuperekedwa. chikondi chimenechi n'chimodzimodzi ndi kukopana, amene ngakhale sanali kumanga ndi sabwerera mu chinthu china.

Pali mtundu winanso wa chikondi wotchedwa wosamalitsa, ndipo kwambiri ubwenzi kuposa chikondi. Pakati pa abwenzi pali chikondi, wofatsa ndi paubwenzi, koma chilakolako yotopetsa akusowa.

Koma kwenikweni ndi zitatu zoyambirira zokha, mitundu yofunika ya chikondi, amene ali osowa kwambiri mu maonekedwe ake angwiro. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake nzeru za Agiriki kumeneko ndi kusakaniza mitundu ya chikondi, yomwe, poyamba, ndi kofala.

Mwachitsanzo, mawonekedwe zofala imatengedwa pragma, lomwe chikhalidwe chake ndi osakaniza a wokhwimitsa ludus. Izi ndi chitsanzo chabwino cha chikondi ndi wanzeru, kapena kuti akutchedwa chikondi cha mayiko. Inde, kukhudzika si mwakuya kwambiri, koma nthawi yomweyo anthu amagwira ku cikondano ndi kukumana ndi wachifundo ndi wachikondi. Zimenezo zosavuta kulamulira, ndipo munthu akhoza kusamalira popanda vuto. Maganizo konse kungasokoneze maganizo ndipo sakakamiza kuchita misala. anthu bwino pamodzi ndi izi zikhoza kupezeka ndi kusiya mawerengedwe.

Mmodzi wa mitundu olimbikitsa kwambiri chikondi - ndi Agape, yomwe ndi ya wokhwimitsa Eros. chikondi ichi ndi dyera mwamtheradi ndi mtima, zilibe kuzindikira kudzikonda ndi zachokera kusamalira wokondedwa. Mwatsoka, maganizo amenewa n'zochepa kwambiri. Kukonda anthu kwathunthu anachita, iwo basi kupasuka mu mzake, kumverera pa yomweyo chodzala tsaya yamtendere. Ndipo ngati ichi chikondi ndicho, ndi angapo adzakhala wosangalala ngakhale m'banja chipwirikiti kapena kukangana yaing'ono. Komano, kumverera penapake oopsa. Ndipotu, ngati munthu achotse chinthu choyamikiridwa wake, moyo wake chabe akugonjetsa cholinga.

Chimodzi mwa njira yoopsa kwambiri ya mmene - kukonda. Apa, dzina odziwikiratu, chifukwa kukonda ndi ankaona kuti chisakanizo cha Eros ndi ludus. Izi ndi zomveka tatikulu, yerekezerani yonse iyi. chikondi wawononga mabanja, ndi chifukwa cha kupha ndi masoka Amapatsa moyo wa munthu ndi chiwonongeko cha ululu. Ndipotu chinthu chofunika chimadalira pa chinthu choyamikiridwa ndipo njakata mu reciprocity. Ndipo ngati chikondi chotani anayamba kukhalira limodzi, ndiye mtundu umenewu, monga ulamuliro, likukhalira ku winawake kapena kusiyiratu palimodzi, anasiya ululu, udani ndi mkwiyo. Kukhala nthawi yaitali zoterezi kumverera yosatheka sangathe, chifukwa pamodzi ndi chimwemwe iwo kubweretsa kusauka kwa maganizo ndi macabre.

Ndipotu, pali Mfundo zambiri ndi ntchito zoyenera lingaliro limeneli wosafa. Ndipo ngati inu kuphunzira mitundu ya chikondi cha Fromm, tikuona kuti allocates ndi otchedwa kukonda abale, umene amauona ofunika. Mwanjira imeneyi pali wachikondi, wachifundo, kufuna kuteteza. chikondi m'Baibulo pamene munthu amakonda mzako monga adzikonda mwini, ngakhale kwathunthu atasiya tizikondana.

Kuzikonda yosiyana, kunyamula chimwemwe kapena chisoni, kuponya mu whirlpool wa zomverera zodabwitsa, kapena muyaya pogaya mu ndende ya ululu. Izi zidalira pa chikhalidwe cha anthu, zizoloŵezi zawo ndi kufuna kusintha.